Hi, I'm not sure if this is a commonly raised issue but here goes. I am 61 and my husband, also 61, has Alzheimers and has been in a care home for the past 18 months. I am a lively woman with plenty of interests but I really do miss the company of a man. I'm not just talking about sex, though I miss that too. It's all the lovely moments, smile, cuddles, being surprised and treated to a bar of chocolate or a cup of tea I haven't made myself.
I love my husband and still have warm contact with him but he doesn't have much language left and he can't engage with me except to smile and occasionally say something that is in the moment. Most of what he says isn't even in sentence form. he's physically quite well, though an indwelling catheter causes him regular problems, but without it he isn't able to urinate at all. He's likely to live for many years yet and my life as a woman is on hold.
Do other women, and men, wonder how to live with this ongoing heartbreak and be fulfilled as a fully adult human being. I'm certainly not interested in casual relationships.
I love my husband and still have warm contact with him but he doesn't have much language left and he can't engage with me except to smile and occasionally say something that is in the moment. Most of what he says isn't even in sentence form. he's physically quite well, though an indwelling catheter causes him regular problems, but without it he isn't able to urinate at all. He's likely to live for many years yet and my life as a woman is on hold.
Do other women, and men, wonder how to live with this ongoing heartbreak and be fulfilled as a fully adult human being. I'm certainly not interested in casual relationships.