After three weeks in an assessment centre we met with my husband's consultant, the doctor working at the centre, the manager of the centre and the occupational therapist who has worked with my husband. All four of the proffessionals were of the opinion my husband needed full time care within a nursing home. Each gave a full explanation for reaching their opinion, ranging from his lack of perception and the dangers involved to the care he needed because of his challenging behaviour and the medication he required. They will be trying over the next two weeks to reduce further his anxiety and his not sleeping even when medication is prescribed. The consultant and unit manager both said how well I had done to deal with his condition for 7 years and keep him at home. It was lovely to have their praise but does not make it any easier when realising he wont be coming home. We are really struggling tonight, there is so much to try and sort in two weeks and we an so easily get it wrong. I will speak with his social worker tomorrow before we set off to look at nursing homes. He may well have to go into temporary accomodation until there is a place in a nursing home of our choice. This has happened so suddenly, the decline has been so rapid. His agitation and aggression are being managed well by his new medication so he is certainly more at ease with himself but still continues to show some aggression from time to time with the staff. He has now settled very well at the centre and would be perfect if he could stay there but it is an assessment centre and there must be hundreds of dementia sufferers out there who need these beds and the care from the wonderful staff. I have nothing but praise and gratitude to each and every one of them. We have no idea of funding available though we certainly wont be self funding, unfortunately. We will most likely come out of this battered and bruised but my husband deserves the best we can do and we will be fighting his corner as we have as a family over the last few years.
Jay
Jay
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