Hey All - Today I seem to be so very sad - Mum has now been in resi care for 3 years now. Dementia was diagnosed 3 years ago. Today with the Jubilee celebrations going on in her resi care home she is unable to participate. She cannot enjoy any of the festivities - sing-alongs - tea-time treats (she has no interest in food and has to be spoon fed most of the time) she has no interest in anything. In March - Mothers Day.... we think she most probably had a stroke - she has been to the hospital but being nearly 92 - docs said leave her alone - we do not want to be pulling her about. - I was happy to hear that. But - she talks now in baby language - nobody can understand her - apart from a couple of words here and there - is doubly incontinent - cannot walk - I feel so sad that I cannot help her - most of the time she really does not care whether I am there or not. I did not realise that dementia would be so awful. My father had alzheimers and passed away some 10 years ago but somehow it did not seem to be as traumatic as what mum is going though.
I always thought the last few years with my mother would be good, but, it is all so distressing - no two visiting days are the same - one day not so bad and the next awful. She appears to be so very unhappy despit being in a very good care home.
I always thought the last few years with my mother would be good, but, it is all so distressing - no two visiting days are the same - one day not so bad and the next awful. She appears to be so very unhappy despit being in a very good care home.