Hello,
this is my first post so I'll start with an introduction.
Mum and Dad are both in their 80's, and have always wanted to be as independent as possible. All of their children live about 2 hours travel away, and keep in touch via email, phone calls and visits. During visits we carry out any chores that they're unable to do.
Mum started showing memory loss about 6 years ago, rapidly deteriorated and then has kept pretty much the same. Her diagnosis is mild - moderate Cognitive Impairment. She's much the same as she's always been, just with a very bad memory and confusion caused by the forgetfulness. She knows her limitations and is able to reason....so long as she remembers what is being discussed!
Dad has Bipolar 1. We noticed that some of the symptoms we associate with mania seemed to be remaining even when he was calm. Mostly confusion and paranoia.
We explained our concerns to his GP and he's just been assessed as having Cognitive Impairment. I am pretty certain there are signs of Dementia.
His reasoning ability is compromised and he greatly over estimates what he can still do.
We all (family and GP) think that they are coping at the moment. But problems are beginning to surface that are harder to deal with from a distance. Getting outside help is not a good option as Dad is so unpredictable.
If they moved near to me we could support them longer than if they stay where they are.
I appreciate that moving to a new place could disorient them, but I think the help they'd gain would off set this.
Mum would move tomorrow. Dad initially rejected the idea. He's now said it's a possibility "in the future" when they can't cope. Tomorrow he might say something else!
Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?
this is my first post so I'll start with an introduction.
Mum and Dad are both in their 80's, and have always wanted to be as independent as possible. All of their children live about 2 hours travel away, and keep in touch via email, phone calls and visits. During visits we carry out any chores that they're unable to do.
Mum started showing memory loss about 6 years ago, rapidly deteriorated and then has kept pretty much the same. Her diagnosis is mild - moderate Cognitive Impairment. She's much the same as she's always been, just with a very bad memory and confusion caused by the forgetfulness. She knows her limitations and is able to reason....so long as she remembers what is being discussed!
Dad has Bipolar 1. We noticed that some of the symptoms we associate with mania seemed to be remaining even when he was calm. Mostly confusion and paranoia.
We explained our concerns to his GP and he's just been assessed as having Cognitive Impairment. I am pretty certain there are signs of Dementia.
His reasoning ability is compromised and he greatly over estimates what he can still do.
We all (family and GP) think that they are coping at the moment. But problems are beginning to surface that are harder to deal with from a distance. Getting outside help is not a good option as Dad is so unpredictable.
If they moved near to me we could support them longer than if they stay where they are.
I appreciate that moving to a new place could disorient them, but I think the help they'd gain would off set this.
Mum would move tomorrow. Dad initially rejected the idea. He's now said it's a possibility "in the future" when they can't cope. Tomorrow he might say something else!
Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?