I really need some advice regarding my Mum going into a care home.
Mum was initially assessed in October when she wasn't too bad, confused but still able to look after herself to some degree. By Christmas, she was unable to operate the TV, radio, microwave the gas oven had been disconnected and personal hygiene was at an all time low. She gets very confused looking for my Dad, her Mother home and has been known to wander in the dark and has been brought home by some well meaning neighbours. She was also showing delusional behaviour, talking to some pictures of celebrities, giving them food and then that progressed to her becoming scared as they didn't talk and wouldn't go away. On 5th January we had a meeting with the SW who has said she is no longer safe in her own home, she increased meals on wheels to every day and homecare to 3 times a day and felt that a month was a good target to get her into a care home.
We have had two weeks of homecare going in and I can notice a definite lift in Mums mood, less phone calls and less confusion, although we have had a couple of incidents, fusing the house by soaking the kettle base and I found her eating food I had put into the bin. My brother also got a phone call at 11.00 the other night telling him she had been out to the pub looking for his 2 year old daughter who was now asleep upstairs. He's not sure if she actually went but felt by the way she was talking she probably had.
She is due to start Aricept next week and is going to have an assessment by one of the homes next week too. We are being very sneaky and telling her work needs to be done on the house which makes me feel so bad but my questions are this.
Are we doing the right thing? Are we being pushed by the SW who is thinking of budgets (Homecare V self funded care home) or is this just an inevitability and she will go anyway and better to be planned than as an emergency? She seems so happy at the moment but I know that can change in an instant. I feel so confused I really don't know what to do for the best
Mum was initially assessed in October when she wasn't too bad, confused but still able to look after herself to some degree. By Christmas, she was unable to operate the TV, radio, microwave the gas oven had been disconnected and personal hygiene was at an all time low. She gets very confused looking for my Dad, her Mother home and has been known to wander in the dark and has been brought home by some well meaning neighbours. She was also showing delusional behaviour, talking to some pictures of celebrities, giving them food and then that progressed to her becoming scared as they didn't talk and wouldn't go away. On 5th January we had a meeting with the SW who has said she is no longer safe in her own home, she increased meals on wheels to every day and homecare to 3 times a day and felt that a month was a good target to get her into a care home.
We have had two weeks of homecare going in and I can notice a definite lift in Mums mood, less phone calls and less confusion, although we have had a couple of incidents, fusing the house by soaking the kettle base and I found her eating food I had put into the bin. My brother also got a phone call at 11.00 the other night telling him she had been out to the pub looking for his 2 year old daughter who was now asleep upstairs. He's not sure if she actually went but felt by the way she was talking she probably had.
She is due to start Aricept next week and is going to have an assessment by one of the homes next week too. We are being very sneaky and telling her work needs to be done on the house which makes me feel so bad but my questions are this.
Are we doing the right thing? Are we being pushed by the SW who is thinking of budgets (Homecare V self funded care home) or is this just an inevitability and she will go anyway and better to be planned than as an emergency? She seems so happy at the moment but I know that can change in an instant. I feel so confused I really don't know what to do for the best