I have applied for welfare and legal guardianship for my mother,who is 74 and has alzheimers.Everything was a struggle as she was staying with me and I also have a brother and an uncle(mothers brother we don't have a lot of contact he has his own
family).In June,I had booked a holiday ,but mum did not come,my brother refused to
look after her,told me to put her in a home.I managed to get a friend to look after her
for me.I always knew my brother was selfish but never realised how much,how can some
people just be heartless.The mental health officer came to visit for reports and wanted to speak also to my brother,he refused,I called he did not answer my calls.I texted him
a message and asked him to talk to her,he texted back and said" not until all my mothers estate and finances were itemised for close scrutinisation" I cried for two days and my heart is heavy every time I think of it,how can he be so heartless? she could hopefully live for another twenty years,all he can think of is money...so I asked mum when she was lucid what she wants me to do and she says everything is split 50/50 between me and him.Mum owns three houses,they are all in dire need of renovation,my solicitor says they should be sold...my dilema is..do I renovate them and sort out all the work so they fetch a decent price(brother would not lift a finger
to help)or do as my husband says and just sell to a developer for a knock down price
(goes against my grain dearly)and save myself the hassle cos its a lot of work to be done and would break my heart.Help me please with all your thoughts.My brother has not seen mum since last xmas,not a phonecall,nothing.last year he came with his two daughters for xmas dinner at my house,this year I have booked for me,hubby,mum and
the lady who looked after her for xmas dinner out in a lovely restaurant.MY brother ,and neices can dine elsewhere,not that I expect him to show face,hopefully the guardianship will go to court before xmas,I expect he will contest it when the mho asked him if I was a fit person to look after mum he said"no comment"!!!
selfish,selfish,selfish human being!mum is a lovely,warm lady who has just fallen prey to this disgusting disease,he is like a vulture flying over,waiting to pounce when its time.Obviously,he does not need her love,or respect her as a mother,but just wants to know what gain is there for him,he does'nt take her to the doctors/hospital,cut her toenails,massage her feet,wash/dress,feed etc all the things we do with love,I just want her safe,and warm and happy,sorry about the rant but the anger overwhelms me,at a cold heartless rat.
family).In June,I had booked a holiday ,but mum did not come,my brother refused to
look after her,told me to put her in a home.I managed to get a friend to look after her
for me.I always knew my brother was selfish but never realised how much,how can some
people just be heartless.The mental health officer came to visit for reports and wanted to speak also to my brother,he refused,I called he did not answer my calls.I texted him
a message and asked him to talk to her,he texted back and said" not until all my mothers estate and finances were itemised for close scrutinisation" I cried for two days and my heart is heavy every time I think of it,how can he be so heartless? she could hopefully live for another twenty years,all he can think of is money...so I asked mum when she was lucid what she wants me to do and she says everything is split 50/50 between me and him.Mum owns three houses,they are all in dire need of renovation,my solicitor says they should be sold...my dilema is..do I renovate them and sort out all the work so they fetch a decent price(brother would not lift a finger
to help)or do as my husband says and just sell to a developer for a knock down price
(goes against my grain dearly)and save myself the hassle cos its a lot of work to be done and would break my heart.Help me please with all your thoughts.My brother has not seen mum since last xmas,not a phonecall,nothing.last year he came with his two daughters for xmas dinner at my house,this year I have booked for me,hubby,mum and
the lady who looked after her for xmas dinner out in a lovely restaurant.MY brother ,and neices can dine elsewhere,not that I expect him to show face,hopefully the guardianship will go to court before xmas,I expect he will contest it when the mho asked him if I was a fit person to look after mum he said"no comment"!!!
selfish,selfish,selfish human being!mum is a lovely,warm lady who has just fallen prey to this disgusting disease,he is like a vulture flying over,waiting to pounce when its time.Obviously,he does not need her love,or respect her as a mother,but just wants to know what gain is there for him,he does'nt take her to the doctors/hospital,cut her toenails,massage her feet,wash/dress,feed etc all the things we do with love,I just want her safe,and warm and happy,sorry about the rant but the anger overwhelms me,at a cold heartless rat.