People tend to fall into at least two categories: those who want no physical memorial at a church or other place, for their loved one - and those who do want something, a focus, perhaps.
I waited almost a year to decide what to do for Jan. Eventually, I decided on a simple memorial plaque placed on the wall in the beautiful walled garden of the crematorium where her service was held. I wanted something that would last beyond my own time.
We always loved old houses and walled gardens so this seemed most appropriate.
I have not yet arranged precisely when to do something there with Jan's ashes - that will be soon, though.
Meantime, today would have been our 43rd wedding anniversary.
Sometimes a person will say to their family "I don't want any memorial", but I feel that decision is not necessarily theirs to take. After a person has passed on, their loved ones must come to terms with that, in a way that is most appropriate for them.
.... all these things are my own opinion, of course.
I waited almost a year to decide what to do for Jan. Eventually, I decided on a simple memorial plaque placed on the wall in the beautiful walled garden of the crematorium where her service was held. I wanted something that would last beyond my own time.
We always loved old houses and walled gardens so this seemed most appropriate.
I have not yet arranged precisely when to do something there with Jan's ashes - that will be soon, though.
Meantime, today would have been our 43rd wedding anniversary.
Sometimes a person will say to their family "I don't want any memorial", but I feel that decision is not necessarily theirs to take. After a person has passed on, their loved ones must come to terms with that, in a way that is most appropriate for them.
.... all these things are my own opinion, of course.