Hi All,
Wondering if you could tell me your thoughts on this as I'm a tad "confused!" Don't really know how I feel!
A bit of background - My dad has been looking after my Mum(who is 65)for the past 5 yrs. She has alzheimers and is in the late mid-stage I would say. Cannot do a lot for herself except feed with assistance and walk short distances. We haven't been able to have a conversation with her for over 3yrs.
During the past yr or so my dad has been meeting up with a woman he used to work with over 15yrs ago. They've stayed in touch as every couple of yrs all his old work colleagues and their sposes have all been out. Her husband died Jan 2010. They only see eachother every couple of weeks max as she works 6 days a week and is half an hr away by car. I look after my mum for a whole day once a month and a sat eve in general.
Anyway my mum went into respite in March for 3 nites. The next time in June is for slightly longer and he is going to Devon with this woman! My dad wanted to check I was ok about it so I asked half jokeingly as it was single rooms. He looked a bit embarrased and smiled ... So I knew they were staying together. He said he is not abandoning mum and would never.
I know this woman has worried what I will think.
He does do a really good job looking after mum. I understand their marriage is dead and he was the one that wanted to do lots of travelling when they retired. He is only 65 so is not old!
When I looked after my mum on Sat, I was on his laptop as usual and i went into his favourites for something I saved on their previously, and their was the shock of my life, an underwear webiste saved! It was a very nice and tasteful chemise!! It's not my B-day coming up! LOL!
I'm not sure but I sensed a couple of yrs before she got diagnosed they were not getting on, but that could have been the tension to the alzheimers coming. I think I honestly feel ok about it but it's a bit weird. Should I feel ok about it??!
Wondering if you could tell me your thoughts on this as I'm a tad "confused!" Don't really know how I feel!
A bit of background - My dad has been looking after my Mum(who is 65)for the past 5 yrs. She has alzheimers and is in the late mid-stage I would say. Cannot do a lot for herself except feed with assistance and walk short distances. We haven't been able to have a conversation with her for over 3yrs.
During the past yr or so my dad has been meeting up with a woman he used to work with over 15yrs ago. They've stayed in touch as every couple of yrs all his old work colleagues and their sposes have all been out. Her husband died Jan 2010. They only see eachother every couple of weeks max as she works 6 days a week and is half an hr away by car. I look after my mum for a whole day once a month and a sat eve in general.
Anyway my mum went into respite in March for 3 nites. The next time in June is for slightly longer and he is going to Devon with this woman! My dad wanted to check I was ok about it so I asked half jokeingly as it was single rooms. He looked a bit embarrased and smiled ... So I knew they were staying together. He said he is not abandoning mum and would never.
I know this woman has worried what I will think.
He does do a really good job looking after mum. I understand their marriage is dead and he was the one that wanted to do lots of travelling when they retired. He is only 65 so is not old!
When I looked after my mum on Sat, I was on his laptop as usual and i went into his favourites for something I saved on their previously, and their was the shock of my life, an underwear webiste saved! It was a very nice and tasteful chemise!! It's not my B-day coming up! LOL!
I'm not sure but I sensed a couple of yrs before she got diagnosed they were not getting on, but that could have been the tension to the alzheimers coming. I think I honestly feel ok about it but it's a bit weird. Should I feel ok about it??!