Hi,
No one I've spoken to in person seems to understand at all as they're not going through anything remotely like this, so thought I'd give it a go writing on here.
My mum has been diagnosed as having post cortical atrophy (though refuses somewhat to accept this and is seeking a second opinion from a different hospital) and I can't seem to control myself from snapping at her anytime she does anything that reminds me that she's facing this condition. I feel terrible after doing it but I can't seem to stop, I just want my mum to be capable and healthy again and then any sign I'm given to remind me that she's not makes me angry. She doesn't deserve my behaviour at all and I just don't know what to do.
I'm only nineteen and currently on a gap year (which I took as I was worried about my mum's memory before she had been diagnosed this february) and she really wants me to go off and enjoy my self at university come september but I can't stand the thought of leaving her. My parents got divorced years ago and she's kind of secluded herself from her friends so I just hate the idea of her being all alone at home with no one to help. I know that my dad will go and see her and that I can come home during term time every so often, but I don't know if I'd be able to hack being away from my mum when I know, no matter what she says, that she needs me.
I'm getting angrier and angrier with my friends (although not to their knowledge) as none of them even so much as ask me if things are ok because they don't know how to handle it. Sometimes when they talk to me about their problems I want to scream at them because they don't realise how lucky they are.
I overheard my mum say to my great aunt yesterday that the consultants at the hospital said she only has four years to live - I got even angrier about this because she hadn't told me even though she's known this for months. She's the only person I trust in the world and the fact that she's keeping these things from me hurts me more than anything.
Since finding this out I can't seem to stop thinking about all the things she won't be for, when I get married, when I have children. I need my mum more than anything, we've been through so much already together and the idea of her not being in my life absolutely devastates me.
I just don't know what to do or how to cope other than shut myself off from everyone, so any help or advice would be greatly appreciated
No one I've spoken to in person seems to understand at all as they're not going through anything remotely like this, so thought I'd give it a go writing on here.
My mum has been diagnosed as having post cortical atrophy (though refuses somewhat to accept this and is seeking a second opinion from a different hospital) and I can't seem to control myself from snapping at her anytime she does anything that reminds me that she's facing this condition. I feel terrible after doing it but I can't seem to stop, I just want my mum to be capable and healthy again and then any sign I'm given to remind me that she's not makes me angry. She doesn't deserve my behaviour at all and I just don't know what to do.
I'm only nineteen and currently on a gap year (which I took as I was worried about my mum's memory before she had been diagnosed this february) and she really wants me to go off and enjoy my self at university come september but I can't stand the thought of leaving her. My parents got divorced years ago and she's kind of secluded herself from her friends so I just hate the idea of her being all alone at home with no one to help. I know that my dad will go and see her and that I can come home during term time every so often, but I don't know if I'd be able to hack being away from my mum when I know, no matter what she says, that she needs me.
I'm getting angrier and angrier with my friends (although not to their knowledge) as none of them even so much as ask me if things are ok because they don't know how to handle it. Sometimes when they talk to me about their problems I want to scream at them because they don't realise how lucky they are.
I overheard my mum say to my great aunt yesterday that the consultants at the hospital said she only has four years to live - I got even angrier about this because she hadn't told me even though she's known this for months. She's the only person I trust in the world and the fact that she's keeping these things from me hurts me more than anything.
Since finding this out I can't seem to stop thinking about all the things she won't be for, when I get married, when I have children. I need my mum more than anything, we've been through so much already together and the idea of her not being in my life absolutely devastates me.
I just don't know what to do or how to cope other than shut myself off from everyone, so any help or advice would be greatly appreciated