I need to get things written down and off my chest.
My Dad died five months ago today and I miss him so much. It's just silly things that make me want to cry. On Sunday I was working in the garden and it made me think of Dad as he was always a keen gardner and at one time had an allotment. I have three sisters two of which have been a great support but the youngest blames me without saying as much for Dad being in hospital for the three months before he died. The circumstances were such that he couldn't have gone home as Mam couldn't have cared for him as she isn't in the best of health. The youngest sister couldn't have been there all the time for him either.
Since MIL had her stroke seven weeks ago my youngest sister hasn't even asked how she is or how we're managing as she thinks I should have put her into hospital like I did with Dad. The circumstances are completely different as there are three of us here to care for her and we're all in good health and not that old so can manage.
Dad's funeral was a complete sham as he was a complete Athiest and Mam is Catholic as are my three sisters I gave it all up years ago. She had her Catholic Priest to do the service and the next day Dad's ashes were scattered on the garden of remembrance by someone from the funeral place. I wasn't told any of this until it was too late. This is not what Dad would have wanted.
On top of all this Mam has redecorated the house, bought new furniture and carpets so now when I go to visit there is nothing of Dad there. They never got on for years until he made his will the year before he died and then she became his 'best friend'! He had wanted his money split between me and my sisters but she made sure the will was made out to her and we only got anything if she died first. I'm not bothered about the money it's just the way she goes on. I have a lot of history with my Mam and most of it's not nice.
I loved my Dad so much and was very close to him and he wouldn't want Mam and my youngest sister to be treating me this way. I just try to console myself that he loved me and I loved him and there was nothing that they could or can do about that.
Thank you all for being there for me. I'm getting myself very upset now and will have to sort myself out as I need to get MIL into the shower. I just needed to get this out of my system and try to draw a line under it and get on with my life without my Dad.
My Dad died five months ago today and I miss him so much. It's just silly things that make me want to cry. On Sunday I was working in the garden and it made me think of Dad as he was always a keen gardner and at one time had an allotment. I have three sisters two of which have been a great support but the youngest blames me without saying as much for Dad being in hospital for the three months before he died. The circumstances were such that he couldn't have gone home as Mam couldn't have cared for him as she isn't in the best of health. The youngest sister couldn't have been there all the time for him either.
Since MIL had her stroke seven weeks ago my youngest sister hasn't even asked how she is or how we're managing as she thinks I should have put her into hospital like I did with Dad. The circumstances are completely different as there are three of us here to care for her and we're all in good health and not that old so can manage.
Dad's funeral was a complete sham as he was a complete Athiest and Mam is Catholic as are my three sisters I gave it all up years ago. She had her Catholic Priest to do the service and the next day Dad's ashes were scattered on the garden of remembrance by someone from the funeral place. I wasn't told any of this until it was too late. This is not what Dad would have wanted.
On top of all this Mam has redecorated the house, bought new furniture and carpets so now when I go to visit there is nothing of Dad there. They never got on for years until he made his will the year before he died and then she became his 'best friend'! He had wanted his money split between me and my sisters but she made sure the will was made out to her and we only got anything if she died first. I'm not bothered about the money it's just the way she goes on. I have a lot of history with my Mam and most of it's not nice.
I loved my Dad so much and was very close to him and he wouldn't want Mam and my youngest sister to be treating me this way. I just try to console myself that he loved me and I loved him and there was nothing that they could or can do about that.
Thank you all for being there for me. I'm getting myself very upset now and will have to sort myself out as I need to get MIL into the shower. I just needed to get this out of my system and try to draw a line under it and get on with my life without my Dad.