I took a week away with my husband last week to return today to see quite a decline. Mum is in extra care accommodation (own flat, home staffed by carers 24/7)since Nove 2010. Cardio vascular mixed dementia - severe diagnosed in Dec 2010. Her pulse is slow and I think she is slow heart failure. Incontinenace intermittent. Sleeps on top of the bed in her underskirt. Carers struggle to get her to change her clothes. Forgetting to have breakfast now too. So very sad to witness. Her demeanour remains calm and generally happy & smiley. I returned home today and couldn`t wait to see her and observed quite a decline.I think she has been pinning for me last week although I rang her each evening. I sent a postcard, but it didn`t mean anything to her. I talked to her about it showing her the card, she didn`t understand what it was and asked me to take it away. She was so pleased to see me telling me how much she had missed me. I`m not sure how aware she is, but a carer agreed with me that there was a noteable decline over last week. I`m not upset, nor feel guilty, I need to gather strength from time to time and spend time with my husband. I mentally I keep telling her to slip away peacefully in her sleep, not to keep hanging on FOR ME her only child. She does/did everything FOR ME. She will be 83 in 4 weeks time. I know it sounds horrible, but I wish it was all over. At least she is not in pain, but how can I tell how aware she is of her own situation, I don`t think she is. Thanks for listening!
Love to all on TP
Heather xxx
Love to all on TP
Heather xxx