Hello everyone
I joined talking point at the end of december and talked about the awful illness this is and the fact that my mother has suffered with this for 10 years. I am now very sad to say that she has passed away 2 weeks ago and i can honestly say myself or my family did not envisage the type of death she encountered. My mother died of Kidney failure secondary to dehydration and dementia which has become apparent in the nursing home she was staying in. The problem is we are struggling to understand why she was so dehydrated before being admitted to hospital and the fact the the nursing home did not advise us of this at all. We requested that a doctor be called to see her as we had noticed a distinct deterioration in her and we actually stated she looked very dehydrated and that when we tried to give her a drink she would not swallow this. we fully understand the final stages of dementia: and the fact that the swallow goes it is very difficult to give them any food or liquids.
We are struggling to cope with the loss of her and are all devasted she has gone from us due to this horrible illness. Nor were we aware of the fact that she could die in such a way as to see her in pain for a number of days before pathway was finally introduced. I am wondering if anyone else has experienced this if this is a common end to alzeimer sufferers. At present we are still trying to come to terms with losing her and the way in which she died but worst of all is how we try to lead some sort of normal life without her due to the fact all our focus was on visiting, supporting and caring for her during the last 10 years. It has left a huge hole in my life and i don't know what to do......
I joined talking point at the end of december and talked about the awful illness this is and the fact that my mother has suffered with this for 10 years. I am now very sad to say that she has passed away 2 weeks ago and i can honestly say myself or my family did not envisage the type of death she encountered. My mother died of Kidney failure secondary to dehydration and dementia which has become apparent in the nursing home she was staying in. The problem is we are struggling to understand why she was so dehydrated before being admitted to hospital and the fact the the nursing home did not advise us of this at all. We requested that a doctor be called to see her as we had noticed a distinct deterioration in her and we actually stated she looked very dehydrated and that when we tried to give her a drink she would not swallow this. we fully understand the final stages of dementia: and the fact that the swallow goes it is very difficult to give them any food or liquids.
We are struggling to cope with the loss of her and are all devasted she has gone from us due to this horrible illness. Nor were we aware of the fact that she could die in such a way as to see her in pain for a number of days before pathway was finally introduced. I am wondering if anyone else has experienced this if this is a common end to alzeimer sufferers. At present we are still trying to come to terms with losing her and the way in which she died but worst of all is how we try to lead some sort of normal life without her due to the fact all our focus was on visiting, supporting and caring for her during the last 10 years. It has left a huge hole in my life and i don't know what to do......