Took mum in for respite yesterday,shes staying there for 4 weeks,just waiting for a room to become available at care home for her to go permanently.It broke my heart,more so because shes still young(68), she looked like she shouldn't be there,but mentally she does need to be.I feel so guilty, i cried most of yesterday driving home through my tears.It feels like im going through a berevement even though i know i can still visit.
Have been to see mum today, she seemed surprised to see me, then said " take me home",i just said " i carn't mum " then changed the subject. She kept welling up,then chatting, i managed to be brave in front of her.I walked her to the dining room for her dinner,kissed her goodbye,she had a few tears until a carer took her to see the other ladies, then i snook off.I hope she settles in ok,am finding this really difficult as we have always been so close.
Have been to see mum today, she seemed surprised to see me, then said " take me home",i just said " i carn't mum " then changed the subject. She kept welling up,then chatting, i managed to be brave in front of her.I walked her to the dining room for her dinner,kissed her goodbye,she had a few tears until a carer took her to see the other ladies, then i snook off.I hope she settles in ok,am finding this really difficult as we have always been so close.