Hi
Well, yesterday I took my mother shopping for clothes as she had said she didn't have enough (she probably doesn't as she's dropped nearly 3 dress sizes).
I picked her up and took her to Marks (borrowed a wheelchair) and we had a good time. She was interested in the clothes and chose quite a few. We tried them on and she decided to have everything. We then had a cup of tea and a biscuit and I took her back to the home.
We had been out longer than I had planned, nearly 2 hours, and I think it was too much for her. She didn't recognise the home and wanted to know why I had taken her there. She had no recollection that we'd been shopping and bought her new clothes. She kept saying 'something is very wrong, this isn't right' and sat with her head on the table refusing to sit up. She asked to go home which she hasn't done for a while now.
I felt so bad, what had been quite a nice afternoon ended up with her getting very agitated and more and more confused. I couldn't distract her, everything I said she threw back at me. All was wrong and I wasn't helping.
This is the first time I've taken her out since she went to the home 5 months ago. I thought it would be a nice change for her but it was too long. I usually restrict my visits to her to no more than an hour after that she gets confused and more likely to ask to leave. I should have known this wouldn't work but I often read of other TPers taking their mums out and so wanted to spend a bit of time actually doing something together.
I will never do it again. I'm so sad about it.
R
Well, yesterday I took my mother shopping for clothes as she had said she didn't have enough (she probably doesn't as she's dropped nearly 3 dress sizes).
I picked her up and took her to Marks (borrowed a wheelchair) and we had a good time. She was interested in the clothes and chose quite a few. We tried them on and she decided to have everything. We then had a cup of tea and a biscuit and I took her back to the home.
We had been out longer than I had planned, nearly 2 hours, and I think it was too much for her. She didn't recognise the home and wanted to know why I had taken her there. She had no recollection that we'd been shopping and bought her new clothes. She kept saying 'something is very wrong, this isn't right' and sat with her head on the table refusing to sit up. She asked to go home which she hasn't done for a while now.
I felt so bad, what had been quite a nice afternoon ended up with her getting very agitated and more and more confused. I couldn't distract her, everything I said she threw back at me. All was wrong and I wasn't helping.
This is the first time I've taken her out since she went to the home 5 months ago. I thought it would be a nice change for her but it was too long. I usually restrict my visits to her to no more than an hour after that she gets confused and more likely to ask to leave. I should have known this wouldn't work but I often read of other TPers taking their mums out and so wanted to spend a bit of time actually doing something together.
I will never do it again. I'm so sad about it.
R