I've never done a note like this to people I don't know so am not sure whether this is what I need or not. I know I need something because my wife has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's at age 46, and the past few months have been a nightmare for our family. We have three teenage kids who are comming to terms with the situation, but I'm really struggling inside. My wife is everything. I've read all the doom ridden books and done the web investigation stuff, and now I just lay awake at night looking at her, and thinking of what probably lays ahead of us. Quality time together could be so short, and while she has been given medication (which has seen an improvement), every day her actions and memory losses remind us of this illness.
I don't know whether to pack up work or try to muddle through it. I have a job which demands long hours, frequently away from home, which means my wife's support falls to our children. I'm 45 and am now worrying about finances to support my wife through an uncertain future. I cannot even think of anyone else looking after her as this disease progresses. I'm also desperate to be with her while we are able to have good times together. No one can tell me how long that will last, but I know this is about as best as we will ever now be.
I know that I need to arrange for us to refresh wills, sort out powers of attorney and finances and the like, but this seems so hard to accept and do. God I'm so angry, upset, mixed up, confused and disparing, and am desperate to keep positive for her and our children. My wife has no reason to be diagnosed with this.
I'm attending a Carers workshop next week so maybe that will help me to navigate through all of this stuff. Sorry to vent.
I don't know whether to pack up work or try to muddle through it. I have a job which demands long hours, frequently away from home, which means my wife's support falls to our children. I'm 45 and am now worrying about finances to support my wife through an uncertain future. I cannot even think of anyone else looking after her as this disease progresses. I'm also desperate to be with her while we are able to have good times together. No one can tell me how long that will last, but I know this is about as best as we will ever now be.
I know that I need to arrange for us to refresh wills, sort out powers of attorney and finances and the like, but this seems so hard to accept and do. God I'm so angry, upset, mixed up, confused and disparing, and am desperate to keep positive for her and our children. My wife has no reason to be diagnosed with this.
I'm attending a Carers workshop next week so maybe that will help me to navigate through all of this stuff. Sorry to vent.