Hi! I am new to this forum. My 86 year old mother-in-law has early stage dementia but we live 80 miles away. Her children who live close, for one reason or another, are not committed to finding out how to help. She is very lonely, has some good days interspersed with days when she is very confused, doesn't know whether it is day or night and frankly wishes she was not here. She often says she has been up since 3 in the morning. If she remembers she is going out, she gets up in the middle of the night to be ready and then sits for hours waiting for her other daughter-in-law to pick her up. She has been known to go out very early for a hair appointment that she doesn't have only to return because the hairdresser is closed. She often says she would be better in a home but as she is still very fit for her age and enjoys the freedom she has when she is not confused, we tend to think this would be the end of her.
Does anyone have any advice on how she can be helped. I have read about the clock which tells night and day. She can still tell the time. She has just accepted meals on wheels (her pride would not allow it before) but the payment at the end of the week is causing her some distress. She is continuously asking my husband about when and how she can pay. I am merely trying to help her as I was lucky enough that my own mother did not suffer dementia but had ill health and I was able to have her living with us to make the final years of her life happy ones. It is such a shame that m-in-law is so unhappy and finding it difficult to cope with her condition.
Any suggestions?
Does anyone have any advice on how she can be helped. I have read about the clock which tells night and day. She can still tell the time. She has just accepted meals on wheels (her pride would not allow it before) but the payment at the end of the week is causing her some distress. She is continuously asking my husband about when and how she can pay. I am merely trying to help her as I was lucky enough that my own mother did not suffer dementia but had ill health and I was able to have her living with us to make the final years of her life happy ones. It is such a shame that m-in-law is so unhappy and finding it difficult to cope with her condition.
Any suggestions?