Mum: Not long to go now

Iainwh

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Hi Guys,

A quick run down, of things.

My Mum got diagnosed with AD in the middle of 03 when she was 54. She followed the symptoms almost to the letter. we experienced the decline as was expected. until the middle of may this year when she had what could only be described as a fit. So we moved the bed from the pare room downstairs to the dinning room.

Me and my Dad struggled on until the 3rd of July when she was put into a specialised ward until we could find a nursing home. she was in the hospital for about 4/5 weeks. In the middle of Aug we got her into the nursing home she was only in a few days and she got pneumonia. When I saw her in the resuscitation room of the hospital I thought it was game over. She was on a respirator and a saline drip and a heart monitor. Anyway over the next few weeks the doctors and nurses did what they could and got rid of the infection, but she was having difficulty swallowing and her speech had become limited two one word. After she had gotten over the pneumonia she was put back into the nursing home.

After a couple of days she was then put back into hospital because she now has a water infection. She is on nil by mouth they have taken her off the saline drip and the palliative care team are going to giver her Diamorphine.

So this will probably be the end in a few days now that she can't do anything for herself and now that the docs have taken he off the Saline.

I will say thanks for your support and help over the years, and when my Mum does finally give in to this horrible disease, I hope I never encounter it ever again.
 

jenniferpa

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I am so sorry that your mother has reached this stage. All I can say is try to spend as much time with her as you can, talk to her, tell her you love her, and that it's OK to go.

Take care of yourself and your father.
 

Grannie G

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I`m sorry Ian. I hope your mother`s final days/weeks are free of pain and you and your father are comforted by being able to share your grief.
 

scarletpauline

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I'm really sorry to hear this but your mum should be allowed to go in peace, yes, stay with her if you can and tell her you love her, hold her hand, good luck to you and your dad, love Pauline xxx
 

Mameeskye

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Ian

It is sorry when it comes to this inevitable stage. My heart goes out to you and your family. Now is the time to sit and hold her, and tell her everything you have ever wanted to tell her, and let her know that you love her and will miss her, but you will all be OK.

It is a bittersweet time.

Love strength and courage to you and your family for the days ahead,

Mameeskye
 

Vonny

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Dear Ian, it is a terrible time as I know only too well. Terrible and yet wonderful as you mum has no pain thanks to the diamorphine, time for you to tell her you love her, just to be with her and enjoy the little time you have left with her.

It is indeed a horrible disease but your mum is nearly free of it now.

Wishing you and your family strength to get through this time and the inevitable dark days which will follow.

Vonny xx
 

Michele

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Oct 6, 2007
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Dear Ian,

I am so sorry to hear of your news. Like everyone has said, spend as much time as you can with her, talk to her, tell her how much you love her and that you will support your father. I did this with my Mother-in-law and it helped me a lot.

Take care of yourself.

Love to you and your family

xx
 

Linda Mc

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The others have said it all so just remember we are always here for you.

Thinking of you.

Linda x
 

Sam Iam

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Ian,
its not easy to let go of the woman who nurtured you and whom you obiviously cherish but your memories of your Mum before this horrible disease stuck will return to help you and your Dad.

I wish you strength and peace of mind xx
 

Flossy May

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Ian

It is a bitter sweet time and when the inevitable happens it will still come as a shock.

They say that the hearing is the last thing to go, so tell her how you feel, how much you love her etc.

Thinking of you.
 

Taffy

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Apr 15, 2007
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Hi Ian,

I am sorry to hear your sad news.

I hope your mum is pain free and comfortable.

Caring Thoughts, Taffy.
 

Snip

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Mar 16, 2009
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Sending very best thoughts and wishes for your mum to have a gentle and dignified passing.

And a comradely hug for you and your family at this really heartbreaking time.

Snip x
 

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