hi,
I came across this site by accident while researching my mother's diagnosis.She was admitted to hospital last month with "chronic on acute confusion" and was there 29 days coming out just yesterday. At first they told me she could go home with a care package from social services , but as they can't administer medications that wouldn't work. Then they told me she needed to be in a secure unit which shocked me and on challenging this I found that the notes had been wrongly written up making her sound like she wanders a lot and is difficult, whereas all the nurses who were looking after her said she was no bother. Eventually it was decided Mum should go into a dementia registered residential home and that is where I took her last night. The hospital release notes say she is continent, yet as I have been doing her laundry for some time I knew this is wrong.Eventually they listened to me and found she had a bad rectal prolapse.Now my poor Mum has the indignity of being doubly incontinent, as well as losing her home and her independence because her mind is not doing what it used to. I'd welcome any advice on how to help her adjust to all this.
I openly admit I am relieved she is now being cared for as visiting her every day and looking after everything for her was taking it's toll on me.However I do feel I have failed her by not being able to continue, the trouble is my husband was getting very neglected and I also do childcare for my little grandsons in term times when their parents are working and I just couldn't keep everything going.
My Mum is the only one of our parents who has gone this route[in laws and Dad all died ] and I have no siblings to help me.
I came across this site by accident while researching my mother's diagnosis.She was admitted to hospital last month with "chronic on acute confusion" and was there 29 days coming out just yesterday. At first they told me she could go home with a care package from social services , but as they can't administer medications that wouldn't work. Then they told me she needed to be in a secure unit which shocked me and on challenging this I found that the notes had been wrongly written up making her sound like she wanders a lot and is difficult, whereas all the nurses who were looking after her said she was no bother. Eventually it was decided Mum should go into a dementia registered residential home and that is where I took her last night. The hospital release notes say she is continent, yet as I have been doing her laundry for some time I knew this is wrong.Eventually they listened to me and found she had a bad rectal prolapse.Now my poor Mum has the indignity of being doubly incontinent, as well as losing her home and her independence because her mind is not doing what it used to. I'd welcome any advice on how to help her adjust to all this.
I openly admit I am relieved she is now being cared for as visiting her every day and looking after everything for her was taking it's toll on me.However I do feel I have failed her by not being able to continue, the trouble is my husband was getting very neglected and I also do childcare for my little grandsons in term times when their parents are working and I just couldn't keep everything going.
My Mum is the only one of our parents who has gone this route[in laws and Dad all died ] and I have no siblings to help me.