I wrote a while ago asking for help for my dear father.
Now i need your help even more please as so worried and scared.
My dad is 83 with Multi-infarc Dementia. He is now declining rapidly and showing some very scarey symptons which are extremely worrying for all the family especially my precious mum who thinks dad won't be here for much longer.
He is still at home but goes into respite once a month for a week and also daycare 3 times each week to give mum a rest.
Dad suffers daily TIA's but they have now got very strong and he is in alot of pain. His memory, sight and hearing went some weeks ago but did come back but since then he had deteriorated quite quicky. This has happened before but not this bad.
The past few days mostly in the evenings he gets horendous pains in his head, eyes, face and down his arms and legs and is very frightened. The Gp has said there is nothing he can do as he is on the correct medication. Dad takes an awful lot of meds a day as has other serious health issues as well.
After this happens dad is all over the place and mum had to somehow on her own get dad into bed. He is also permantly cathiterised as well.
Dad is an extremely religious man and very gentle. Never looses his temper at all. Think that what keeps him going.
However the other night he said angels visit him and sit with him at night and that the Virgin Mary comes as well. We go along with all this but its so upsetting to watch all this and feel so helpless as well.
I am ill myself with Fibromyalgia and ME/CFS and cannot do much to help mum.
Mum will not have any help at all so we have to abide by her and dads wishes.
All we have been told to do if he gets any worse is ring 999 but we know that will agitate dad even further and probably spend many hours on a cold trolley in A@E.
I just wondered if these pains are normal as getting nowhere with the Gp. All he says is he can do nothing as he has had a nother stroke.
Sorry but just need some advice here as we are at our wits ends waiting for the inevitable to happen which are told could happen anytime.
It made alot worse as its Christmas too.
Thanks for reading.
Julie.
Now i need your help even more please as so worried and scared.
My dad is 83 with Multi-infarc Dementia. He is now declining rapidly and showing some very scarey symptons which are extremely worrying for all the family especially my precious mum who thinks dad won't be here for much longer.
He is still at home but goes into respite once a month for a week and also daycare 3 times each week to give mum a rest.
Dad suffers daily TIA's but they have now got very strong and he is in alot of pain. His memory, sight and hearing went some weeks ago but did come back but since then he had deteriorated quite quicky. This has happened before but not this bad.
The past few days mostly in the evenings he gets horendous pains in his head, eyes, face and down his arms and legs and is very frightened. The Gp has said there is nothing he can do as he is on the correct medication. Dad takes an awful lot of meds a day as has other serious health issues as well.
After this happens dad is all over the place and mum had to somehow on her own get dad into bed. He is also permantly cathiterised as well.
Dad is an extremely religious man and very gentle. Never looses his temper at all. Think that what keeps him going.
However the other night he said angels visit him and sit with him at night and that the Virgin Mary comes as well. We go along with all this but its so upsetting to watch all this and feel so helpless as well.
I am ill myself with Fibromyalgia and ME/CFS and cannot do much to help mum.
Mum will not have any help at all so we have to abide by her and dads wishes.
All we have been told to do if he gets any worse is ring 999 but we know that will agitate dad even further and probably spend many hours on a cold trolley in A@E.
I just wondered if these pains are normal as getting nowhere with the Gp. All he says is he can do nothing as he has had a nother stroke.
Sorry but just need some advice here as we are at our wits ends waiting for the inevitable to happen which are told could happen anytime.
It made alot worse as its Christmas too.
Thanks for reading.
Julie.