hi, I’m new to the forum so apologies if this could have been answered elsewhere or is in the wrong place.
I’m really struggling at the minute to juggle everything and was hoping to hear how others manage similar scenarios.
My dad had a bad stroke two years ago and was left unable to walk needing 5 calls a day from a care company to help with his personal care and lives at home with my mum. He has vascular dementia and alzeihmers which is progressing quite rapidly.
I am a Mum to two children aged 4 and 2, I work 30 hours a week, I am at my mums every morning before work alongside taking them to food shopping and then assisting with giving her time out away from my dad on top of this.
My mum is not coping with being his full time carer but will not accept any respite or consider the next step of putting him in a home. She has verbally told me that I don’t do enough to help her and quite frankly this has hurt me massively.
I don’t think she can see the impact it has upon my own family and the time it takes away from me spending time with my children who I tried for 6 years to conceive.
I don’t know which way to turn, I just feel so helpless as I know she needs support but refuses accept help available. My marriage and family life is now under huge strain. Not sure how to handle this and figure out something that works for my family and my parents, I have nobody but my husband to speak to about it and feel at my wits end as he is also feeling resentful towards the whole situation.
I don’t know which way to turn to make things more manageable and carry so much guilt for the way I feel. I just want to enjoy my own children growing up without being made to feel like a bad person.
Sorry for the long post
I’m really struggling at the minute to juggle everything and was hoping to hear how others manage similar scenarios.
My dad had a bad stroke two years ago and was left unable to walk needing 5 calls a day from a care company to help with his personal care and lives at home with my mum. He has vascular dementia and alzeihmers which is progressing quite rapidly.
I am a Mum to two children aged 4 and 2, I work 30 hours a week, I am at my mums every morning before work alongside taking them to food shopping and then assisting with giving her time out away from my dad on top of this.
My mum is not coping with being his full time carer but will not accept any respite or consider the next step of putting him in a home. She has verbally told me that I don’t do enough to help her and quite frankly this has hurt me massively.
I don’t think she can see the impact it has upon my own family and the time it takes away from me spending time with my children who I tried for 6 years to conceive.
I don’t know which way to turn, I just feel so helpless as I know she needs support but refuses accept help available. My marriage and family life is now under huge strain. Not sure how to handle this and figure out something that works for my family and my parents, I have nobody but my husband to speak to about it and feel at my wits end as he is also feeling resentful towards the whole situation.
I don’t know which way to turn to make things more manageable and carry so much guilt for the way I feel. I just want to enjoy my own children growing up without being made to feel like a bad person.
Sorry for the long post