I care for my MIL (89), who has dementia, this I do for my husband, she lives in our annexe which people may say makes it easier but the stress and strain are intense. She is a very difficult person, and lacks any gratuide which is the true self of her coming out, she has 3 other sons living within 10 mins who never visit or ring her and refuse to give any support, can others tell me is this normal behaviour of sons?, I have managed to get her into ageuk 4 days a week, I pay for private Carer for one day to take her out for day for lunch and supervised shopping so that the cleaner (that I pay for), can clean the annexe, and she thinks I’m the worst in the world and hurls abuse at me continually she eats with us 2 meals a week so that no cooking is required at all, we have carers morning and evening for meds prompts as she cannot remember to take otherwise, have been awarded personal care 45 mins also for morning 2 years ago but no capacity for council to deliver still, as she needs prompting to shower daily etc and also has stoma which she is not managing well and which is infected, I do not understand why it is such a struggle to get authorities and medical professionals to deal with the issues especially as we have power of attorney, it is all just so frustrating, has anyone had these problems with care packages?