I am a carer for my Aunt who is showing classic middle / later stage dementia symptoms. She has never had a diagnosis - she hasnt seen a Doctor since 1976 and is adamant that she will not see one now, despite having problems with swelling and significant discolouration of her lower limbs, not eating or drinking at an ideal level, reduced mobility on her RH arm and shoulder following being hit on that side by a solid Oak Hymn board (dont ask!!) and significant memory problems and aggitation (especially in the afternoon/ evening), severe paranoia - she now believes that people are starting to follow her home and not just watching her, unable to cope with any changes in her routine and obsessive behaviour - to name but a few. I know that I cannot drag her to the surgery and will probably have to wait for her to enter a crisis situation before we can get her any real help but if anyone has any good hints / tips/ suggestions on how to persuade her to see a doctor then I am open to any ideas! She wont let strangers into her flat- I am the only person she properly trusts and I dont want to damage that relationship as it is the only thing we can currently use to keep her safe.