Hi all,
I’m new to posting so please bear with me!
My mum is in a CH, she has Alzheimer’s, we need to sell her home to fund her care......now to my tale.......
The family decided that the property could stay in the family so it was offered to us all by POA, my sister, the value was independently appraised. She put her house on the market so as to buy the house, she was the only one interested at the time. Now, 8mths later she hasn’t sold her home, so I asked her if I could try to get a mortgage to buy it, as I was concerned it would have to be sold out of the family, to which she agreed and told me she was taking her home off the market. I applied and was offered a mortgage, however now she is refusing to instruct a solicitor, stating she hadn’t decided what she wanted to do over the house. I was led to believe mum was only a few months from running out of funds, yet now I’ve been told she’s got another 6mths money. My sister has stated I have stabbed her in the back and will be instructing another estate agent for her home for another 6mths. I was totally honest about the possibility of buying and kept her in the loop over the mortgage and having the house surveyed by the bank, plus I told her that if she found a buyer for hers, before contracts were drawn up, I would back off and let her have the house. I viewed other properties with the possibility she would find a buyer, I’m looking to move from renting to owning anyway. I thought it made sense to get the house sold, it’s been stood empty for 12mths already as my sister dithered over whether to buy it or not. It’s awful to think my sister and brother think I’m stabbing her in the back, that was never my intention. I want mums interests to be first and foremost, plus I don’t want the risk that it’s put on the open market only to have sell quickly and for less money, but my sister doesn’t want to hear that. I’m really worried she’s only thinking of her wants and needs not our mums! Help and advice please!
I’m new to posting so please bear with me!
My mum is in a CH, she has Alzheimer’s, we need to sell her home to fund her care......now to my tale.......
The family decided that the property could stay in the family so it was offered to us all by POA, my sister, the value was independently appraised. She put her house on the market so as to buy the house, she was the only one interested at the time. Now, 8mths later she hasn’t sold her home, so I asked her if I could try to get a mortgage to buy it, as I was concerned it would have to be sold out of the family, to which she agreed and told me she was taking her home off the market. I applied and was offered a mortgage, however now she is refusing to instruct a solicitor, stating she hadn’t decided what she wanted to do over the house. I was led to believe mum was only a few months from running out of funds, yet now I’ve been told she’s got another 6mths money. My sister has stated I have stabbed her in the back and will be instructing another estate agent for her home for another 6mths. I was totally honest about the possibility of buying and kept her in the loop over the mortgage and having the house surveyed by the bank, plus I told her that if she found a buyer for hers, before contracts were drawn up, I would back off and let her have the house. I viewed other properties with the possibility she would find a buyer, I’m looking to move from renting to owning anyway. I thought it made sense to get the house sold, it’s been stood empty for 12mths already as my sister dithered over whether to buy it or not. It’s awful to think my sister and brother think I’m stabbing her in the back, that was never my intention. I want mums interests to be first and foremost, plus I don’t want the risk that it’s put on the open market only to have sell quickly and for less money, but my sister doesn’t want to hear that. I’m really worried she’s only thinking of her wants and needs not our mums! Help and advice please!
