Hi Bubble and everyone else.
First, I don't think it matters what kind of dementia your parent has, the symptoms are more or less the same. Wandering, confusions, forgetfulness, agression, depression, you name it, they are all in the package.
My mum was diagnosed with Alheimers 15 months ago, and has been in a care home since then. The problem was highlighted when she was found on the street in the middle of the night, not a clue what she was doing, and denied being there. No mention was made to us of pressure pads, or door locks, these are all new ideas to me, and might have meant mum could stay at home, but the only suggestion then was hospital for six weeks assessment at the end of which we were told she needed 24-hour supervision. The choice was at home with us or in a care home. Nothing else was mentioned.
We didn't want her at home with us (shock horror, I know some might say) so it was the care home.
How long did it take her to settle? Well, we were advised on a month. The month passed, then 3 months, 6 months and year, and she was still not "settled" or happy. She has been there for 15 months and now seems happy to be there. So the answer is that n our experience it has taken 15 months for her to settle.
The care home is having difficulty in managing her. we have requested a psychiatric assessment, but are told that this time of year is very busy as when the clocks change a lot of people also change????
If the assessment is that she needs an EMI unit (and I suspect it will), there are none in our area, we are looking at 30-50 miles away at least. And another 15 months of distress for her to settle.
So much for good government.
Can we do anything about this terrible lack of facilities? And mum is self-funding, so will have to pay the lot. An EMI unit costs about £1,000 a week, so her money will be gone in a year. Who pays after that? Given the current experience, she won't have even settled there in a year. Do we keep shunting the poor lady around the country to cheaper and cheaper homes for dogs, or do I reconcile myself to that fact that I will have to sell my own house to pay for about 4 years in a care home, and when me and hubby come to that state ourselves there will be no money for us.
I think I am moving us all to Switzerland where we can just bump ourselves off. Seems a darn sight more enjoyable that the prospects in the UK.
Margaret