Mum has been in hospital for 2 weeks now with broken arm and unidentified infection which has made her very ill and at times we weren't sure if she would pull through. However the infection is now responding to treatment and she is improving so talk is now turning to discharge plans. As mum , who is 92, has been having lots of falls my sister and I have made the difficult decision that mum will not be safe at home any longer so needs residential care. This is mums greatest fear though and has always said she would rather be dead than go into home, how on earth do we tell her that this is now the only option. The guilt is crippling me , I keep trying to think of ways we could manage if she went home but know realistically that's not possible as she lives alone but dread having to break the news to her. As she is now feeling better she keeps asking when she can go home, not even realising her arm is broken and in a sling, she thinks it is just tied up. Any advice from members on how to cope ?