I know that I am now seen through a dementia filter, the woman whose husband is in a nursing home. Yes, he is and I am with him at least 5 days a week, and it's what I want to do. But outside this, I find two things, that dementia seems to have invaded my mind - I think it's addictive and the nurses who work at Keith's home say the same thing, it's what they think about, their patients, how they reacted, what they can do to help.
My story, in a nutshell is that after a pretty appalling ordeal being sole carer for my husband at home, he is now in a loving nursing home and I am trying, just trying to get five or ten minutes of joy, fun, oh you name it, all that stuff that now seems impossible.
Are we going to be affected by dementia for the rest of our lives? Being a mental health professional myself, I think this may be the case.
Other thing is, my friends, colleagues, neighbours bring all conversations, e mails every thing around to dementia and what is going on with Keith, how far deteriorated he is now … and I feel I am imprisoned in a tower of uninvited words such as: tragic, sad, appalling, devastating, terrible, lonely, miserable, poor quality of life, unbelievable, horrible, etc etc etc. I can e mail them about my sweet peas coming into flower and back comes a reply asking about poor dear Keith and how sad all this is and what a comfort my sweet peas must be to me ...
Those who kindly follow my thread about life in a nursing home (which I will resume when I have the energy!) will know it is almost unheard of for me to rant. I would so like to know if others of you feel this way.
Love and best, Kindred. xxxx
My story, in a nutshell is that after a pretty appalling ordeal being sole carer for my husband at home, he is now in a loving nursing home and I am trying, just trying to get five or ten minutes of joy, fun, oh you name it, all that stuff that now seems impossible.
Are we going to be affected by dementia for the rest of our lives? Being a mental health professional myself, I think this may be the case.
Other thing is, my friends, colleagues, neighbours bring all conversations, e mails every thing around to dementia and what is going on with Keith, how far deteriorated he is now … and I feel I am imprisoned in a tower of uninvited words such as: tragic, sad, appalling, devastating, terrible, lonely, miserable, poor quality of life, unbelievable, horrible, etc etc etc. I can e mail them about my sweet peas coming into flower and back comes a reply asking about poor dear Keith and how sad all this is and what a comfort my sweet peas must be to me ...
Those who kindly follow my thread about life in a nursing home (which I will resume when I have the energy!) will know it is almost unheard of for me to rant. I would so like to know if others of you feel this way.
Love and best, Kindred. xxxx