My mum has been caring for my dad for the past 3-4 years. He has been deteriorating rapidly of late but still knows who we are and where he is. He has absolutely no awareness of his condition - he watched a programme with my mum the other day about dementia and said afterwards "If I ever got that diagnosis I would shoot myself". He is really miserable most of the time - accusing her of keeping things from him when the reality is he just can't remember what she's told him. But at the same time, he's totally reliant on my mum. She's his comfort blanket, he gets extremely agitated when she's not there, even if he's left another member of the family. If she doesn't get some sort of break soon, I think she'll crack up but it's extremely difficult to arrange a break for her that we can explain to him. How do you explain to him why my mum's not there that isn't 'because she needs a break from you'. Anyone been in the same position and have any advice??