Apologies in advance for offloading .....
Mum was asleep when I arrived at the CH today. It was after 11 am - nothing unusual in that - she's sleeping more and much heavier these days. She was absolutely out for the count and despite the best efforts of the Carers and I, she would not wake up. I busied myself tidying up her room a bit, talking to her all the while. I finally sat and stroked her hand, gave her a kiss and she began to stir. It takes a long while for Mum to come to, and I don't rush her. Normally she is overjoyed to see me and her face breaks into a huge smile. Today though, Mum looked concerned. I asked her if she wanted a cuppa, and then she said 'I don't think I know you .... who are you?' I took a deep breath and told her. She still could not register so I told her it didn't matter but I had come, like I always do, especially to see her. She asked to see her pictures, and we skimmed through the photo book I had made her. She knew her Mum, confused her Dad and her husband, and could not work out who I, my husband or my daughter (who visits her every week) were. She really enjoyed the time I spent with her and so did I, but it was obvious she enjoyed the experience, not the connection.
I surprised myself at coping so calmly - stupidly I thought that would be something Mum and I would always have, I visit her very frequently and up until now I've been the only one that she knows instantly without prompting.
Despite dealing with it calmly and being rational that this setback was quite likely to happen, I cannot get it out of my head. It keeps replaying, over and over. Hence the offload.
So sad and another step on the very slippery path.
Mum was asleep when I arrived at the CH today. It was after 11 am - nothing unusual in that - she's sleeping more and much heavier these days. She was absolutely out for the count and despite the best efforts of the Carers and I, she would not wake up. I busied myself tidying up her room a bit, talking to her all the while. I finally sat and stroked her hand, gave her a kiss and she began to stir. It takes a long while for Mum to come to, and I don't rush her. Normally she is overjoyed to see me and her face breaks into a huge smile. Today though, Mum looked concerned. I asked her if she wanted a cuppa, and then she said 'I don't think I know you .... who are you?' I took a deep breath and told her. She still could not register so I told her it didn't matter but I had come, like I always do, especially to see her. She asked to see her pictures, and we skimmed through the photo book I had made her. She knew her Mum, confused her Dad and her husband, and could not work out who I, my husband or my daughter (who visits her every week) were. She really enjoyed the time I spent with her and so did I, but it was obvious she enjoyed the experience, not the connection.
I surprised myself at coping so calmly - stupidly I thought that would be something Mum and I would always have, I visit her very frequently and up until now I've been the only one that she knows instantly without prompting.
Despite dealing with it calmly and being rational that this setback was quite likely to happen, I cannot get it out of my head. It keeps replaying, over and over. Hence the offload.
So sad and another step on the very slippery path.