Does anyone know who the woman ‘expert’ in the flowery dress was? I was speechless at her lack of understanding.
We don’t have admiral nurses in this area. As for the GP they don’t want to know. They just say ring the memory clinic and they say ring GP!!!
dancer12 your post was just as if I wrote it =warm weather a walk = need 5 mins to do something pop a TV programme on that gets OH attention. Just like we did years ago with the children .thank God for reruns lol.Hi maryjoan:
Let's hope for nice, warm weather. My husband needs 24/7 care, if it's nice weather at least we can go for a walk. I used to hate when the baseball games were on tv (he enjoys watching the games). Now I look forward to the baseball games being on tv, I can just sit him in front of tv and I get a break for 3-4 hours If I needed a break from my kids when they were young I'd just pop in a movie for them to watch. Sad really but reality is what it is, we have to keep our sanity somehow because nobody else will keep it for us. Not that anyone would want to live in our reality.
Many cyber hugs coming your way. Take care.
can you record the games to be able to play them over again, he may not know they are repeats and just be happy to watch them while you have a break.Hi maryjoan:
Let's hope for nice, warm weather. My husband needs 24/7 care, if it's nice weather at least we can go for a walk. I used to hate when the baseball games were on tv (he enjoys watching the games). Now I look forward to the baseball games being on tv, I can just sit him in front of tv and I get a break for 3-4 hours If I needed a break from my kids when they were young I'd just pop in a movie for them to watch. Sad really but reality is what it is, we have to keep our sanity somehow because nobody else will keep it for us. Not that anyone would want to live in our reality.
Many cyber hugs coming your way. Take care.
I stopped watching the tele twenty years ago and as far as I am concerned my life is better for it, there are good things on the tele i know but most is just tat and misinformation.
This is one blessing for my husband, that he is not clinging on because he is not quite aware of the situation. That said he did comment out of the blue at lunch that he would be dying soon because you do at his age. He seemed very calm when he said that and he is an anxious person. I am well aware of the realities of death and dying through my work, having cared for people. I have always been worried about how he would face it and now this disease is protecting him because of the way it is showing.He explained much of our pain is caused by clinging on
Wise man, Patbryn! I think I am inclined to do t in the world, I read an article of the influence of Google, a comment by someone mentioned a alternative search engine Ecosia as every 45 searches earns enough to plant a tree. No unnecessary data collection.
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This is one blessing for my husband, that he is not clinging on because he is not quite aware of the situation. That said he did comment out of the blue at lunch that he would be dying soon because you do at his age. He seemed very calm when he said that and he is an anxious person. I am well aware of the realities of death and dying through my work, having cared for people. I have always been worried about how he would face it and now this disease is protecting him because of the way it is showing.
My mum has a tele and she is who I care for, so i do see little bits of the programs as I try to find something suitable for her to watch, what I have found since stopping watching myself is the level of violence and rage and all sorts of negative things has increased ten fold on the tele to the point it shocks and even upsets me. With a lot of button pressing there are nice gentle, pleasant things for mum to watch. Adverts! the adverts are also now very clever they sink straight into mums mind, if she watched the news i think that would have the same negative effect?
The radio in this house is our salvation, classic FM seems to keep her calm and happy and me too.
My husband does exactly this and reacts to TV drama as if it’s real life. This really threw me at first but it shows you what you get used to because I don’t think about it now.things seen on TV can be thought of as real
My husband does exactly this and reacts to TV drama as if it’s real life. This really threw me at first but it shows you what you get used to because I don’t think about it now.
I had an experience of this when I was sitting with an apparently deeply unconscious woman friend holding her hand. Her daughter was in the room and was talking about her mother’s desperate situation and hoping that she would die quickly. I felt a definite squeeze on my hand and I squeezed back and that was it. I feel sure that she had been aware of what her daughter was saying even though she was profoundly unconscious. Of course I shall never know but I have never forgotten it. She died later that night. I think touch is known to be of major importance for the dying because it’s such an instant communication.Just as it is said that hearing is the last to go
I have been asked to write a series of bi monthly diaries for a local digital magazine - giving a no holds barred account of what it is like living with a person with dementia. I wrote the second article yesterday - it probably will have no effect but we can only keep trying.......I have finally got around to watching this and one of the problems with call in programs is that they cannot hope to tackle this issue in such a simplistic way. So those of us already looking after someone with the disease are gobsmacked by the superficial treatment of a very serious issue. They did their best but were in an impossible situation. GPs around the country are in short supply, working their socks off with the rise in chronic conditions and if any were watching would shudder at the thought of being snowed under by worn out carers. The problem is that nobody tells the harsh truth. The truth is that the consultants and memory clinic can do nothing more for you, go home and take the tablets, go to the GP if you are ill and there is nothing more. You will get a visit if you are lucky from the mental health team for a very short time with leaflets being the main support. There is no respite provision, further counselling, help with dealing with dementia or anything else unless you seek it out and pay. The support across the country is patchy. I envisage a Health Visitor type of service for dementia sufferers and their carers, a regular visit giving information and helping to source support, basically a real live version of Talking Point, which is the main source of information for us about symptoms, strategies for dealing with difficulties and finally advising on getting emergency help in extreme circumstances. There are some desperate people on the forums. All I can say is in our dreams!
I do hope this is successful in raising awareness and able to demonstrate how much we need support for our caring role for very sick people. That seems to get lost in the white noise, that sufferers of dementia are sick just as any other disease.have been asked to write a series of bi monthly diaries for a local digital magazine
I have been asked to write a series of bi monthly diaries for a local digital magazine - giving a no holds barred account of what it is like living with a person with dementia. I wrote the second article yesterday - it probably will have no effect but we can only keep trying.......