my mum moved into her care home on Wednesday evening after being discharged from hospital after a 2 week stay.Whilst in hospital once she was passed as medically fit she underwent an assessment which came back as having no capacity.
We went to the home the afternoon of her discharge getting her room ready, photos flowers etc and unpacked her clothes. We had been informed she would be discharged after lunch . After waiting some hours she hadn't arrived and after phoning the hospital they didn't have any idea when she would have the transport tables etc. So we had no choice but to leave. Phone call from the home at 7.45 pm saying she had arrived and all was well. They recommended that we didn't visit until Saturday just phone.
Phoned on Thursday morning and they reported all was well, I had arranged for her to have her hair washed and styled , she has always enjoyed that. The CH sent me a photo after having her hair done and updated me thoughout the day and all seamed to be going swimmingly.
I decided to visit on Friday morning as I knew I needed to pick up her washing, things were arranged quickly so no name labels in her clothes . When I entered mums room she had completely packed all her belongings including taking the photos off the wall . She said. She doesn't like the place and insisted that I had come to take her . I told her no she has to stay and lied by saying until her skin was better. She didn't seem upset when I said no but didn't understand.
I know she is in the best place and needs the care I can no longer provide or arrange to have in her home anymore. I have LPOA for health and finances . Her packing up her room has had a real affect on me I feel really sad and thinking have let her down. I am going to the CH tomorrow to take the clothes and put labels on the others that are there. The CH manager has advised after tomorrow I don't visit for at least a week for her to settle in. I don't know if this is right or wrong and whatever I do it will only make matters worse
Any advice would be gratefully received, sorry for going on
We went to the home the afternoon of her discharge getting her room ready, photos flowers etc and unpacked her clothes. We had been informed she would be discharged after lunch . After waiting some hours she hadn't arrived and after phoning the hospital they didn't have any idea when she would have the transport tables etc. So we had no choice but to leave. Phone call from the home at 7.45 pm saying she had arrived and all was well. They recommended that we didn't visit until Saturday just phone.
Phoned on Thursday morning and they reported all was well, I had arranged for her to have her hair washed and styled , she has always enjoyed that. The CH sent me a photo after having her hair done and updated me thoughout the day and all seamed to be going swimmingly.
I decided to visit on Friday morning as I knew I needed to pick up her washing, things were arranged quickly so no name labels in her clothes . When I entered mums room she had completely packed all her belongings including taking the photos off the wall . She said. She doesn't like the place and insisted that I had come to take her . I told her no she has to stay and lied by saying until her skin was better. She didn't seem upset when I said no but didn't understand.
I know she is in the best place and needs the care I can no longer provide or arrange to have in her home anymore. I have LPOA for health and finances . Her packing up her room has had a real affect on me I feel really sad and thinking have let her down. I am going to the CH tomorrow to take the clothes and put labels on the others that are there. The CH manager has advised after tomorrow I don't visit for at least a week for her to settle in. I don't know if this is right or wrong and whatever I do it will only make matters worse
Any advice would be gratefully received, sorry for going on