I agree with your comment. At M's CH underwear and socks seem to move around. Either M doesn't notice or she doesn't mention it. Also they don't lock the rooms during the day and some residents wander into other rooms removing items. Its very hard for the carers to monitor and i think its just one of those things I have to live with. I have M's expensive items with me . But against that the carers are always bright and cheerful and very helpful and caring. Mum is always clean as is the CH.M did manage to lose things in her own home.Nowhere is perfect and laundry niggles are common. There is also a sort of "Alice in Wonderland" quality to the place which took me by surprise, but I learned to accept some bizarre happenings as being quite normal. Care homes cant "fix" people with dementia - their behaviour is just the same, but the carers are usually not fazed by it and know some techniques to mitigate it. Mums drawers and cupboards used to be a mess, but I had cleared out her bungalow and knew how bad that had got, so I used to go through her things, send clothes that wernt hers and dirty stuff that had been put back in the drawers to the laundry, gave items that had made their way into mums room to the carers to return to their original owners, turfed out all the tissues and folded up all her things.
What was important to me was that the staff were caring and genuinely fond of her and that mum was kept safe, fed, thrived and was happy there
Sirena - it would be even better if the care worker tidied the drawers/wardrobe while having a chat with your mother.
Some care workers have a natural good sense but we are not privy to the pressures put on the care workers from management.
Yes my Mum doesn't spend any time in the day in her room so I might ask if it can be locked.My mother spends very little time in her room, as soon as she's awake she goes down the the lounge, so I doubt they would have the chance! It's also possible of course that my mother forages in there and messes them up anyway. I never find anyonelse's belongings in her room, the bedrooms are locked when the resident isn't in there so there is no 'swapping and stealing' going on which is a major plus.
Thats exactly what mum used to doIt's also possible of course that my mother forages in there and messes them up anyway. I