I am just back from two days visiting Mum in her care home - it's been a rocky few months since May but for the first time it felt like she may have settled - at least as far as the dementia will allow. For three months she has refused to have her hair cut but on Tuesday I took her to the home salon the she had a wash, cut and blow dry without fidgeting too much. The hairdresser was very quick and Mum was pleased with all the fuss she received afterwards for looking so much better. Then yesterday morning I arrived to find the unit listening to 50s and 60s classics on the 'juke box', singing along and those that are mobile and safe were having a bit of a dance. We had a lovely hour - Mum was really enjoying herself and afterwards as we sat quietly waiting for lunch I noticed that her language skills had had a temporary boost. I know there there will be more ups and downs and crises to face but feel I have to grab these good moments while I can. I've now accepted an offer on Mum's bungalow (which she has totally forgotten) so the next couple of months are going to be very busy.