Oh ouch... I'm so sorry you are in this situation. What a horrible catch 22.The conditions imposed by Social Services to consider return to France are:
The first would cost money we simply do not have, and the second is impossible to achieve unless we could get back there - i.e. the chicken and egg situation.
- Transport - i.e. private air flight as a two day car journey would be too much.
- Written statements from French health care regarding what cover would be in place.
RyanAir allows people to travel with dementia if they have a letter from their doctor saying they are OK to travel. However this letter means that if the have to divert the plane then the airline can charge the doctor for the extra cost. In short the doctor will not issue such a letter.I must be missing something here, but why can you not just fly back with easyjet or someone?.
It is just too much of a risk to stop renting the house in the UK only to get to the airport/ferry port to find out we are refused to travel. Social Services have said she is not allowed to travel, so I have to go by that.I I'm assuming SS don't have your wife under lock and key.
I would have assumed by now that the Brexit situation would have been sorted out but I think that is far from the case. If you asked me six months ago I would have said we would be OK in France. Now I cannot even assume that the French care system will cover us after March 2019.And of course you will lose your residence rights in France if you don't go through the paperwork process before Brexit rears its ugly head. I really feel for you because it would probably be better all round to be in France which also has a top notch health service.
I think a lot depends on whether you have your residence papers sorted. My sister in Spain was so furious that she couldn't vote that she binned her British passport and took citizenship. But my family has been in Spain for a lifetime and I'm the only one who lost residence rights by returning to look after my mum.I would have assumed by now that the Brexit situation would have been sorted out but I think that is far from the case. If you asked me six months ago I would have said we would be OK in France. Now I cannot even assume that the French care system will cover us after March 2019.
To be honest I am fed up trying to sort out the funding issues to a point where I believe there is no simple solution.Local Alzheimer support workers are great but I suspect this situation is above their 'pay grade' so to speak. Do try the helpline number
To be honest I am fed up trying to sort out the funding issues to a point where I believe there is no simple solution.
To make matters even worse my wife has the type of dementia where she objects to any type of personal care and most morning and evening calls end up being a battle between the three of us (carer and I on one side, my wife on the other). Plus where we live we do not have a choice of care agencies. in short the care provided is just about working but I end up having to do most of the care myself.
The property market if France is totally different to the UK, if I could sell the property I would (plus it is even harder when your are hundreds of miles away). Even if I could sell the house my fear is that within two years all our savings would be gone with nowhere to live.But if you decide it's not worth the risk, plus Brexit etc then you need to make yourselves properly and permanently resident here and accept that you will have to sell your French property and it will go in care fees. Then a deferred payment agreement, if offered, might be the way forward - after all, you don't want to deny your partner the care she needs?
Thanks Lucia, this is getting back to the point of my original question - can Social Services impose a care plan.Maybe try advertising for personal assistants
There is only one care agency in the area and they do not have enough staff. I can't say how bad my wife's condition is - but social said when writing up their report it was 50/50 regrading a nursing home or staying at home. December last year we thought she would not last long, but I put in the effort and turned things around. Recently she has said she has had enough and is refusing food, I am lucky if she eats more than a slice of toast the whole day.I think you need to find better carers. It's not acceptable that they can't handle what is a classic dementia situation. It also sounds like your wife is not as far down the line as the local authority's behaviour implies.
Social services are paying for the care at the moment until the application for CHC is officially rejected. Their approach is to try and get the care working in the hope that someone can pull a magic rabbit out of a hat.As to whether social services can 'impose' a care plan, in a previous thread you mentioned that your wife was in 4 weeks respite and social services wanted her to remain there longer but you didn't. Is the care plan a condition to your wife coming home from respite? If so, then it's not unreasonable for social services to 'impose' this plan if they feel that it is in the best interests of your wife with regards the level of care she needs.