Hi everyone,
Just wondered if you find some people don't understand?
Mum's old best friend asked me after they'd been over to see her last year if I thought she'd like to go out for lunch.. I said no as Mum doesn't like to go out. She's been going to a Dementia club locally for 5 hours one day a week but that's very recent, but she isn't always keen & I don't know how long that will continue for.
Mum generally likes to stay home, when we first went to the Dr's last July 2017, the Dr said to me she would say Mum was more moderate stage.
She since got diagnosed in January with Alzheimer's & Dr's have said on a few separate occasions she doesn't have capacity.
Anyway fast forward, and my friend asks me if I thought Mum would be up for going out locally for lunch... Again! With her Mum, Mum's old best friend & us..
Why don't they get that I would like nothing more than to go out for coffee & cake & reminisce about the good old times with us all, but the reality of it is I don't feel it's a reality anymore.
I find it upsetting that I feel they either don't understand or don't listen. I'm not being harsh, I'm being honest & real - or so I like to feel I am. I honestly don't think Mum would cope with the noise and all the people.
She doesn't talk much, and when she does it doesn't make much sense. She's also double incontinent. She can get angry & aggressive, which I know part of the condition. I just don't want to be put in a situation where things can go very sour, very quickly.
There always welcome to visit Mum at home. I just don't see why when I explained all this last year, they are asking me again, it doesn't get better, only worse..
I don't want to always feel like the bad person, but I have to do what's right for Mum.
Thanks for reading & listening to me, it's nice to have others who hopefully understand!
Just wondered if you find some people don't understand?
Mum's old best friend asked me after they'd been over to see her last year if I thought she'd like to go out for lunch.. I said no as Mum doesn't like to go out. She's been going to a Dementia club locally for 5 hours one day a week but that's very recent, but she isn't always keen & I don't know how long that will continue for.
Mum generally likes to stay home, when we first went to the Dr's last July 2017, the Dr said to me she would say Mum was more moderate stage.
She since got diagnosed in January with Alzheimer's & Dr's have said on a few separate occasions she doesn't have capacity.
Anyway fast forward, and my friend asks me if I thought Mum would be up for going out locally for lunch... Again! With her Mum, Mum's old best friend & us..
Why don't they get that I would like nothing more than to go out for coffee & cake & reminisce about the good old times with us all, but the reality of it is I don't feel it's a reality anymore.
I find it upsetting that I feel they either don't understand or don't listen. I'm not being harsh, I'm being honest & real - or so I like to feel I am. I honestly don't think Mum would cope with the noise and all the people.
She doesn't talk much, and when she does it doesn't make much sense. She's also double incontinent. She can get angry & aggressive, which I know part of the condition. I just don't want to be put in a situation where things can go very sour, very quickly.
There always welcome to visit Mum at home. I just don't see why when I explained all this last year, they are asking me again, it doesn't get better, only worse..
I don't want to always feel like the bad person, but I have to do what's right for Mum.
Thanks for reading & listening to me, it's nice to have others who hopefully understand!