How do you know what's the best thing to do when your mum aged 93 with Alzheimer's still hasnt settled after 8 months in a very good care home.
She asks to come home " back to my house, I don't want to die here in this place ' I'm fed up being here, I don t need to be here. There's nothing wrong with me '...... we get it all , and every time we visit or take her out ....it seems to be worse. I don't think I can take it any more. We've tried to explain to her that she cannot live alone now, since Dad died last year. She has no insight at all into her condition. This makes it so difficult. Occasionally she seems lucid, and appears to understand , but then, of course, forgets.
It seems that whatever we do we can't do right for wrong....we take her out to some lovely places, she comes to our home, go shopping, treated her to a lovely birthday meal with family, etc ..it's never good enough.
we are damned if we do and damned if we don't.
Dare we bring her home and try a live in carer . I'm on the verge of doing just that, but my sister ad everyone says no.
She asks to come home " back to my house, I don't want to die here in this place ' I'm fed up being here, I don t need to be here. There's nothing wrong with me '...... we get it all , and every time we visit or take her out ....it seems to be worse. I don't think I can take it any more. We've tried to explain to her that she cannot live alone now, since Dad died last year. She has no insight at all into her condition. This makes it so difficult. Occasionally she seems lucid, and appears to understand , but then, of course, forgets.
It seems that whatever we do we can't do right for wrong....we take her out to some lovely places, she comes to our home, go shopping, treated her to a lovely birthday meal with family, etc ..it's never good enough.
we are damned if we do and damned if we don't.
Dare we bring her home and try a live in carer . I'm on the verge of doing just that, but my sister ad everyone says no.