Hello everyone..1st time on here..I am currently caring for my brother who has vascular dementia..he is 81..he's never been married and doesn't have any children so all care is left to me..he does have carers 3 times a day who are golden and a godsend to me..he is bed bound ,suffers from diabetes,enlarged prostate,heart failure and has a catheter fitted as his bladder doesn't function properly..my concern is that he is getting abusive to us all when he needs washing, dressing or any contact and even went to hit a district nurse (who had to change his catheter )obviously he needs cleaning a few times a day due to incontinence..should I go and see his GP.?.should I be thinking about a care home?..can't go on like this