I'm afraid I lost it tonight and lost my temper with OH. Last week he was having trouble with hearing aid and I rang the Audiologist who was having the week off over Christmas and not back til Tuesday 2nd Jan. I made appointment for hubby to see him on 2nd Jan at 11.30am.
Every day since i made the appointment my hubby has been getting ready to go and I've had to point out that his appointment is not 'today' but next Tuesday. He has been annoyed and saying I've changed it, which I haven't. This morning he woke me up at 7 am to say he was going to the gym and then to the Audiologist. I said that the gym is shut, it's New Years Day but he didn't believe me and I had to phone the gym and listen to the answering machine which confirmed they were closed. I also pointed out that the Audiologist appointment is tomorrow.
This afternoon hubby went to bed for an afternoon nap and he came downstairs at 6pm ready to go to Audiologist. I explained that it was 6 in the evening not 6 am. Anyway I persuaded him to change into leisurewear and we would have dinner and watch a movie then go to bed and in the morning he would go to the Audiologist. So we had dinner and watched the movie and at 10.00pm he said he'd better get ready to leave to drive to Audiologist. I said "look out of the window, it's night time and your appointment is tomorrow morning". He was cross and blamed me for changing things.
Anyway, long story short I lost the plot and told him I couldn't cope with this going over the same thing again and again and I was tired and stressed and I cried. He was mortified that I was crying but I couldn't help it. Every time we have an 'episode' he says he's going. I say where to? And then I worry he'll drive off so want to hide his car keys. I'm afraid I also told him to have a shower and wash his hair because I'm sick of changing the bed sheets because he doesn't shower often enough.
I feel ashamed that I lost it but I'm so fed up. Patience has never been my strong point. He's gone to bed now, bless him.
In the morning I've got to go to the surgery to get biopsy results for my FIL aged 93 (who also has vascular dementia), he had skin samples taken from his forehead to test for skin cancer. Why is it my job to sort FIL out also? Where are all his relatives hiding?
Glad I got all that off my chest, no-one to talk to at this time of night!!
Every day since i made the appointment my hubby has been getting ready to go and I've had to point out that his appointment is not 'today' but next Tuesday. He has been annoyed and saying I've changed it, which I haven't. This morning he woke me up at 7 am to say he was going to the gym and then to the Audiologist. I said that the gym is shut, it's New Years Day but he didn't believe me and I had to phone the gym and listen to the answering machine which confirmed they were closed. I also pointed out that the Audiologist appointment is tomorrow.
This afternoon hubby went to bed for an afternoon nap and he came downstairs at 6pm ready to go to Audiologist. I explained that it was 6 in the evening not 6 am. Anyway I persuaded him to change into leisurewear and we would have dinner and watch a movie then go to bed and in the morning he would go to the Audiologist. So we had dinner and watched the movie and at 10.00pm he said he'd better get ready to leave to drive to Audiologist. I said "look out of the window, it's night time and your appointment is tomorrow morning". He was cross and blamed me for changing things.
Anyway, long story short I lost the plot and told him I couldn't cope with this going over the same thing again and again and I was tired and stressed and I cried. He was mortified that I was crying but I couldn't help it. Every time we have an 'episode' he says he's going. I say where to? And then I worry he'll drive off so want to hide his car keys. I'm afraid I also told him to have a shower and wash his hair because I'm sick of changing the bed sheets because he doesn't shower often enough.
I feel ashamed that I lost it but I'm so fed up. Patience has never been my strong point. He's gone to bed now, bless him.
In the morning I've got to go to the surgery to get biopsy results for my FIL aged 93 (who also has vascular dementia), he had skin samples taken from his forehead to test for skin cancer. Why is it my job to sort FIL out also? Where are all his relatives hiding?
Glad I got all that off my chest, no-one to talk to at this time of night!!