Hello all, Iast posted on the 'I care for someone with Alzheimer's' forum on 5 November 2017. This was about my concerns that my father was being forced into a care home by certain members of my 'family'. Social services had appointed an Advocate and a best interests meeting was arranged while Dad was in respite care. However, he was taken seriously ill and was admitted to hospital with sepsis. A few days later, bowel cancer was diagnosed which could not be treated. My father passed away at the Hospice on 8 December 2017. This was extremely traumatic to watch but my eldest brother and I stayed with him to the end. My eldest brother and my father's cousin were appointed Executors in his Will. However, dealing with our father's estate has been causing a great deal of distress due to the behaviour of our step brother and his wife. My father's cousin has now resigned as Executor because of harassment from step brother's wife: she has accused him of fraud and money laundering, both untrue. The problems seem to come from my step mother's Will: she died in 1996 and, although the house was left to her son it didn't go straight to him. Her Will allowed my father to go on living in the house for as long as he needed to. Apparently, there was some 'ambiguity' about this and a solicitor advised that one of my father's children might make a claim on the property. We have always accepted the house wasn't ours and we were never going to make a claim but, just to make sure, Dad signed a Deed of Trust to make sure the house would remain property of his stepson. Dad never told us he'd signed this document (in 2005) and it only came to our notice when stepson's wife told my father's cousin, who was still Executor, a few months ago. Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in January 2017 and, by that time, was unable to explain anything for himself. Before this, we had tried to get PoA but there were problems and it couldn't go through. Stepson's wife says this Deed of Trust supercedes our Step mother's Will but they won't show us this document: they've accused us of prying into our father's private business. When they knew my father was seriously ill in hospital, they took possession of the house, without telling us, so locking all our possessions and heirlooms within. They say my father had neglected the property under the Deed of Trust, which is unfair. For most of his occupancy, he looked after the house and garden conscientiously. It was only after the Alzheimer's that he couldn't cope with maintenance but refused to leave and live somewhere more manageable. He was also resistant to outside help. Now stepson and wife are demanding my father's estate pays for an entire new boiler and central heating system, re-decoration throughput, new fitted kitchen and new carpets. They will add up the costs and make a fair offer they say. Either we accept their bill for maintenance or they'll get a surveyor who will really push up the cost they say. They have accused us of potential manslaughter for letting our Dad live there with an old boiler and risk of carbon monoxide poisoning - extremely hurtful to us in these circumstances now. Meanwhile, instead of letting us clear Dad's house, we went there today to find they'd dismantled his home, packed his things in cardboard boxes and dumped them in the garage. They have allowed us access to garage but they have behaved in a callous and insensitive way to a bereaved family who only just watched their Dad did from a horrible illness! They have made our father's co-Executor resign from harassment and hit us with a huge bill. Me and my eldest brother both suffer with mental health problems, we don't think we can take much more stress. We are now seeking legal advice. Sorry this is a long post but, please, any comments, thoughts or suggestions would be most welcome. Many thanks!