Having not heard anything more about our adult and carer assessments carried out in June I rang the 'nice lady' from the council today. After some initial delay deciding whether she would speak to me I was put through. Should we have had sight of the assessments says I or perhaps a care plan? Have you not received them, perhaps we are waiting for the financial assessment says she. Surely the care plan is based on needs and not dependent upon the financial assessment, especially as we will be self-funding ...
The call ended with a promise to send the details out to me and advice on a suitable care provider should I wish to go ahead 'privately'. So I have done so today, getting in touch with 3 providers who might be able to offer the home support that I need in order to get a few hours to myself on a scheduled basis. As I follow up these approaches I expect that my wife will get upset, give me lots of negative comments and call me a few names. But the time has come to put her needs and my own above what she thinks she wants. She can't be left alone and I can't go on being on-call with no respite. The start of a major step-change in how we face dementia together but one that may be positive in its effects. Here's hoping.
The call ended with a promise to send the details out to me and advice on a suitable care provider should I wish to go ahead 'privately'. So I have done so today, getting in touch with 3 providers who might be able to offer the home support that I need in order to get a few hours to myself on a scheduled basis. As I follow up these approaches I expect that my wife will get upset, give me lots of negative comments and call me a few names. But the time has come to put her needs and my own above what she thinks she wants. She can't be left alone and I can't go on being on-call with no respite. The start of a major step-change in how we face dementia together but one that may be positive in its effects. Here's hoping.