First post.
Mum was eventually diagnosed with mixed dementia (severe) vascular and alzheimers, Nov 2016. The family had protected her (me included) for quite a while before I had to do something to get her "on the radar", so I got her doctor to refer her to memory clinic, tests and diagnosis.
Since then, she has a social worker and a CPN, assessed at home by OT, .
She has really deteriorated this year, turned against the family, (accusations of stealing her money, trying to poison her, no understanding of her personal safety, not eating or drinking properly. Heading off on the bus to sometimes at least 14 miles away from where she lived. Telling family members to go away and never come back. Tidy in habits, but unable to look after herself. Things came to a head when I was on holiday in June. She went to her bank (again) and accused me of stealing her money, sister had to go and try and take her home. She wouldn't get in the car. Sister got a call hours later from the police, saying she was 14 miles away, in a church, in the area she was born in.
Days later she became shaky, sick and confused. No doctor available so sis, quite rightly took her to local hospital on recommendation of our emergency services. Mam was kept in, but was delirious, fiddling with drips (other patients) hallucinating, trying to escape.
They only kept her there 4 nights. Then she was transferred to an emergency room in EMI care home.
She's still there. Any home care wouldn't be enough. After a review meeting, it was decided she needs 24/7 care.
Bad start, however about 2 months down the line she showed signs of beginning to settle.
No chance.
She won't have a shower or bath because she'll do it when she's HOME. One week since the last one, and she used to have a shower every day when she was living at home.
She has been talking about killing herself, (to be honest, she was saying the same when she was living at home)
We visited today and she showed us her left hand, very bruised,, she said she'd been trying to kill herself. Told staff, and they found her with a biro top, which she'd tried to sharpen and stab her hand with, needless to say, they've taken it away.
I've reported it to the nurse, who is new, and has 40 residents to look after.
Any ideas? I'll l'll take on board anything that comes this way.
Mum was eventually diagnosed with mixed dementia (severe) vascular and alzheimers, Nov 2016. The family had protected her (me included) for quite a while before I had to do something to get her "on the radar", so I got her doctor to refer her to memory clinic, tests and diagnosis.
Since then, she has a social worker and a CPN, assessed at home by OT, .
She has really deteriorated this year, turned against the family, (accusations of stealing her money, trying to poison her, no understanding of her personal safety, not eating or drinking properly. Heading off on the bus to sometimes at least 14 miles away from where she lived. Telling family members to go away and never come back. Tidy in habits, but unable to look after herself. Things came to a head when I was on holiday in June. She went to her bank (again) and accused me of stealing her money, sister had to go and try and take her home. She wouldn't get in the car. Sister got a call hours later from the police, saying she was 14 miles away, in a church, in the area she was born in.
Days later she became shaky, sick and confused. No doctor available so sis, quite rightly took her to local hospital on recommendation of our emergency services. Mam was kept in, but was delirious, fiddling with drips (other patients) hallucinating, trying to escape.
They only kept her there 4 nights. Then she was transferred to an emergency room in EMI care home.
She's still there. Any home care wouldn't be enough. After a review meeting, it was decided she needs 24/7 care.
Bad start, however about 2 months down the line she showed signs of beginning to settle.
No chance.
She won't have a shower or bath because she'll do it when she's HOME. One week since the last one, and she used to have a shower every day when she was living at home.
She has been talking about killing herself, (to be honest, she was saying the same when she was living at home)
We visited today and she showed us her left hand, very bruised,, she said she'd been trying to kill herself. Told staff, and they found her with a biro top, which she'd tried to sharpen and stab her hand with, needless to say, they've taken it away.
I've reported it to the nurse, who is new, and has 40 residents to look after.
Any ideas? I'll l'll take on board anything that comes this way.