It has been a very very very tough few months. My dad has been in and out of hospital with a fall at home causing bleed on brain that stopped and with a suspected chest Infection
He is only 76 and has had vascular dementia for 7 years. I fear these are the last stages he is in.
My mother 78 has refused care and dealt as much as possible on her own , until his last stay in hospital where me and my two older brothers both spoke to nurses etc about the fact our mother couldn't look after him as he needed.
He came home but for the last two weeks has hardly eaten any puréed food or kept any drink down at all. He constantly is coughing up amazing amounts of saliva / spit , I mean cup loads. It will stop then start next day again.
Me and my wife have spoken with social services , Drs and all sorts of people. Dr s have said there is nothing medically wrong with him!!
My mum through much tears agreed a care home would be best, and found one she liked with my eldest brother.
They visited from the home to asses my dad but said due to the amount of spit he had, they felt he needed hospital and wouldn't take him yet. The social got a nurse to come out and she said three is nothing medically wrong with him he just needs care, so the home agrees to have him on a 4 week trial. It's awful how no one can clearly tell you what is what.
This has all nearly killed my mum. She is 78 and to be honest , although she is devastated, she has said she just wants him gone ..... and she has become very selfish , which has upset us allas we now never get a Thankyou or anything from her.
My father goes to this home today at 3pm. Mum and brother are taking him. I am quite numb to everything now as it all seems so strange , father now ways about 6 stone. Was about 12 last year.
Just wanted to share all of this as me and my wife and 4 kids have watched this all happening , and it has broken all our hearts. Losing dad to this disease and my mother becoming a selfish lady through no fault of her own
He is only 76 and has had vascular dementia for 7 years. I fear these are the last stages he is in.
My mother 78 has refused care and dealt as much as possible on her own , until his last stay in hospital where me and my two older brothers both spoke to nurses etc about the fact our mother couldn't look after him as he needed.
He came home but for the last two weeks has hardly eaten any puréed food or kept any drink down at all. He constantly is coughing up amazing amounts of saliva / spit , I mean cup loads. It will stop then start next day again.
Me and my wife have spoken with social services , Drs and all sorts of people. Dr s have said there is nothing medically wrong with him!!
My mum through much tears agreed a care home would be best, and found one she liked with my eldest brother.
They visited from the home to asses my dad but said due to the amount of spit he had, they felt he needed hospital and wouldn't take him yet. The social got a nurse to come out and she said three is nothing medically wrong with him he just needs care, so the home agrees to have him on a 4 week trial. It's awful how no one can clearly tell you what is what.
This has all nearly killed my mum. She is 78 and to be honest , although she is devastated, she has said she just wants him gone ..... and she has become very selfish , which has upset us allas we now never get a Thankyou or anything from her.
My father goes to this home today at 3pm. Mum and brother are taking him. I am quite numb to everything now as it all seems so strange , father now ways about 6 stone. Was about 12 last year.
Just wanted to share all of this as me and my wife and 4 kids have watched this all happening , and it has broken all our hearts. Losing dad to this disease and my mother becoming a selfish lady through no fault of her own
