Anyone watched it?
Anyone watched it?
It would be a big invasion of privacy, but to broadcast some of the experiences that I have read on this site, where carers have no safety net of help or private funds, would bring far greater enlightenment and awareness to those who have not come into contact with dementia in any of its forms.
Just watched this on iplayer and was shocked at how the man was spoken to. In fact I found parts of it quite difficult to watch. However, as somebody has already said - perhaps it was the editing that made it appear quite brutal in places.
My only pleasure was that the PWD seemed quite calm and happy at the end of the programme, and I hope that continued.
I think that the frustration, desperation, guilt and sadness of the wife was portrayed well - however, not every family has the wherewithal to improve situations by converting a studio in the garden, or moving to a retirement village. Not everyone has the support of a large family.
It would be a big invasion of privacy, but to broadcast some of the experiences that I have read on this site, where carers have no safety net of help or private funds, would bring far greater enlightenment and awareness to those who have not come into contact with dementia in any of its forms.
I found it hard to watch too, I know we all have different breaking points, but I was a bit shocked at how harsh, well, direct more than harsh I suppose, that they were with him in the early days of his diagnosis. I felt very sorry for him, he seemed quite imprisoned and I think there could have been better options.
For me, what stood out, was that this was really a story of his wife's journey of acceptance other than anything else. I think that's what ultimately changed and so he could return to the fold, as it were.
I watched this and maybe I missed something, as what I saw was a man being totally controlled by everyone around him, even going as far as sectioning him because he had 'dementia'. What I saw later in the programme was that when everyone left him to live his own life they were all much happier. I saw that the wife needed help as she seemed to be the one with the problem and when she couldn't cope with life generally she blamed her husband and went off on holiday rather than getting help and dealing with what we all have to deal with. When she realised she couldn't manage without him and started being more of the wife she should be everything sorted itself out and his 'dementia' seemed to disappear. Of course the guy gets angry when you see what he had to deal with. Take any one of us, try to totally control our life, have your partner go off on holiday and the family say don't come home to him, then get us sectioned when we supposedly have dementia and we'd all get angry. At one point he was told if you don't get angry everything will be okay, then he's told he has to have a shower, now, and that he smells. Do I have dementia then because i'd have smacked her if she'd spoken to me like that, or would I just be sectioned? One of the worst things is that the medical profession can also wreck peoples lives in the way they were doing. Surely when you see the end of the programme you understand that this really shouldn't be being talked about on this page unless of course, like me, you accept that it was the mans wife who had the problems.
I watched this and maybe I missed something, as what I saw was a man being totally controlled by everyone around him, even going as far as sectioning him because he had 'dementia'. What I saw later in the programme was that when everyone left him to live his own life they were all much happier. I saw that the wife needed help as she seemed to be the one with the problem and when she couldn't cope with life generally she blamed her husband and went off on holiday rather than getting help and dealing with what we all have to deal with. When she realised she couldn't manage without him and started being more of the wife she should be everything sorted itself out and his 'dementia' seemed to disappear. Of course the guy gets angry when you see what he had to deal with. Take any one of us, try to totally control our life, have your partner go off on holiday and the family say don't come home to him, then get us sectioned when we supposedly have dementia and we'd all get angry. At one point he was told if you don't get angry everything will be okay, then he's told he has to have a shower, now, and that he smells. Do I have dementia then because i'd have smacked her if she'd spoken to me like that, or would I just be sectioned? One of the worst things is that the medical profession can also wreck peoples lives in the way they were doing. Surely when you see the end of the programme you understand that this really shouldn't be being talked about on this page unless of course, like me, you accept that it was the mans wife who had the problems.