My mum moved into a nearby care home three weeks ago, initially for four weeks while they assessed her needs and saw how she was. The idea was for her to then carry on there. I organised all this and moved her in, although I live quite a long way from her (250+ miles), so after a few days I came home. Other family members have visited in the last three weeks, as well as telephoned her. She is very confused about where she is and why, and obviously misses having someone from her family about her.
Today the home manager rang, partly to set up her review meeting next week, but also to flag up that she doesn't appear to have settled. Chatting to my sister this evening (who lives fairly close and has visited four or five times) her perception is that although she seems to like the people she is missing her family and is basically homesick! I don't know if the manager's call was a warning that they might not feel that she should stay there, but I fear it might have been.
The sister who has been living with her in her own home (my mum's) is not well herself and my nephew who has been doing a lot of her care is working away from home now, and next year will be living away at university, so she can't just go home again.
I don't know what they will say when I go to the home next week, but is there anything we could do to help her settle there? I expect in the longer term we could perhaps sort out some sort of alternative care, but not in the immediate future. There are six of us siblings and we're all doing our part, but of course everyone has their own lives and responsibilities, and live all over the country. I'd hate to uproot myself but if I have to I would, but would prefer to find another solution if there is one.
Has anyone else had this experience? What did you do?
Today the home manager rang, partly to set up her review meeting next week, but also to flag up that she doesn't appear to have settled. Chatting to my sister this evening (who lives fairly close and has visited four or five times) her perception is that although she seems to like the people she is missing her family and is basically homesick! I don't know if the manager's call was a warning that they might not feel that she should stay there, but I fear it might have been.
The sister who has been living with her in her own home (my mum's) is not well herself and my nephew who has been doing a lot of her care is working away from home now, and next year will be living away at university, so she can't just go home again.
I don't know what they will say when I go to the home next week, but is there anything we could do to help her settle there? I expect in the longer term we could perhaps sort out some sort of alternative care, but not in the immediate future. There are six of us siblings and we're all doing our part, but of course everyone has their own lives and responsibilities, and live all over the country. I'd hate to uproot myself but if I have to I would, but would prefer to find another solution if there is one.
Has anyone else had this experience? What did you do?