Hi again. I've heard many times, dementia, described as a journey. It's a good description. Some long straight bits, some tight corners and countless bends to be driven around, especially as a carer. Earlier this evening I was thinking back to this time last year. How, relatively normal things were. Yet I knew in my heart something was seriously amiss. But, this time last year the experts we're saying don't worry, we've seen this before, it's extreme anxiety, we can fix that. I knew it wasn't and I knew they couldn't. I was no expert on matters of the mind but I knew my wife better than any of those experts. Sadly, in November last year she finally got a diagnosis. Vascular dementia with a ? Because they couldn't be 100% certain. Now looking back, it feels like five years ago not one. We've come a long way on this journey in a relatively short time. Although things are quite bad now, what will another year Bring? It doesn't bear thinking about. Perhaps I'll look back at this time, now with affection and think , hey that wasn't too bad. Why am I thinking these Things? Why am I writing these thoughts here. None of us know what will happen tomorrow, never mind next year! We all like to make some kind of plan for the future, with dementia that's impossible. I had, sorry, we had big plans for our retirement year's, now we just make it up one day at a time. The last few days haven't been too bad. Our youngest daughter has been away for a few days, staying up in the lakes with her bigger sister. As soon as she arrived home this evening that was it. If you weren't to know you would be certain my wife and daughter were the worst of enemies. Not my daughters fault, her only mistake was to come home. Her mum really seems to pick on her for some reason and as for her choice of boyfriend!!! Poor lad. Really he's fine. He also understands and makes allowances. I think it's only a matter of time before she gets herself in bother while out. She seems to find it difficult to keep her thoughts and feelings to herself. I've seen her come close once or twice while we've been out, I've usually managed to distract her, like changing the subject, not easy when she's focused and so determined to put right what she sees as a wrong. So, what of the future, I'm not going to say, how much worse can it get, because I know it can get, will get much, much worse. My biggest worry is how I will cope, how much can I take. I mentioned planning for the future. One thing we have talked about, on her better days, is care in the home. How she's not wanting to go to a care home and I've agreed that she'll stay at home. Then in imaginary brackets, as long as she possibly can. Because as I said at couple of sentences earlier, how will I cope. Only time will tell so in the meantime I'll just carry on, living for the day and once again, see what tomorrow brings. Rain forecast, that should get me out of cleaning the windows, not that I need an excuse. We'll go out for the afternoon, see, planning ahead does work , I feel better already. But where shall we Go? , I'll think of somewhere.Al.ps, having just reviewed this post is think I'll join the ramblers,it does go on a bit.