My dad has had memory problems for the last 3-4 years, but he his it well until about 2 years ago. For a long time it was short term memory loss, with Parkinson's and health deterioration.
Dad gave me a £1000 towards some house improvements around 6 months ago. Very recently I discovered he has significant debt, with a credit card, overdraft over his limit; and utilities debts. I got suspicious he may have debt a couple of months ago when he started asking to borrow money regularly. He receives his pension at the start of the week and around 5 days later he has run out. I know he is not making any payments on his utility bills and buys very little food. What he does is go to the pub every day and also smokes 40+ cigarettes per day. I've told him I want to pay off his utility bills and also have offered to buy him food, but he rejects this and wants cash only. I've also decided to set up a funeral plan that I will pay into monthly, to ensure I can afford funeral costs if and when my dad passed.
My dad is asking for around 30-40 pounds per week, which is preventing me from paying off his utility bills, as I have a lot of expense currently, with several dependents and my eldest son getting married in a couple of months. My dad has refused power of attorney and he seems unable to manage his finances. Also when he asks for money, if I tell him I cannot afford it, he is getting aggressive. He also asks several other members of the family, including my 20 year old autistic son. I'm at my word end with it all and I hate to see my dad's personality changing.
Two nights ago he asked for more money and then went straight to the pub and was buying others drinks saying we are going to pay him a 1000 soon. He then came and asked for more money the next day.
Any advice is greatly appreciated
Dad gave me a £1000 towards some house improvements around 6 months ago. Very recently I discovered he has significant debt, with a credit card, overdraft over his limit; and utilities debts. I got suspicious he may have debt a couple of months ago when he started asking to borrow money regularly. He receives his pension at the start of the week and around 5 days later he has run out. I know he is not making any payments on his utility bills and buys very little food. What he does is go to the pub every day and also smokes 40+ cigarettes per day. I've told him I want to pay off his utility bills and also have offered to buy him food, but he rejects this and wants cash only. I've also decided to set up a funeral plan that I will pay into monthly, to ensure I can afford funeral costs if and when my dad passed.
My dad is asking for around 30-40 pounds per week, which is preventing me from paying off his utility bills, as I have a lot of expense currently, with several dependents and my eldest son getting married in a couple of months. My dad has refused power of attorney and he seems unable to manage his finances. Also when he asks for money, if I tell him I cannot afford it, he is getting aggressive. He also asks several other members of the family, including my 20 year old autistic son. I'm at my word end with it all and I hate to see my dad's personality changing.
Two nights ago he asked for more money and then went straight to the pub and was buying others drinks saying we are going to pay him a 1000 soon. He then came and asked for more money the next day.
Any advice is greatly appreciated