About 8 weeks ago my husband saw the consultant for the first time. After doing numerous memory type tests and asking us lots of questions he said my OH definitely showed signs of memory loss and should have a brain. He is due to have that in a week's time followed by a further appointment with the consultant. He also told my OH he should not drive.
My OH has been very angry and depressed ever since and says he will not have the scan or see the consultant again and that they can't tell him he cannot drive.
In the last 8 weeks I have refused to let him drive if I or anyone else is in the car, so if we go out together I drive withe worse backseat driver (my OH beside me). This in itself is very stressful for me when I am driving with the constant "watch that", "do this", etc. On top of that he tells me daily or several times a day how I did not support him at the appointment as I should have told the consultant he was an excellent driver.
I have tried to explain that there are far worse things that can happen but he just will not accept he should no longer drive. My son and I got rid of his car so that has helped a little but I cannot wrestle the keys off him when he insists he is going out in the car. It is bad enough having the accusations and constant angry outbursts several times a day and that of course is on top of all the other problems that his dementia brings on a daily basis.
Whilst my husband has not as yet had a formal diagnosis I know that he has had problems for more than 7 years. I read many posts on TP and have to check that I haven't written it because I can identify so closely with what has been written.
I just wondered how others have dealt with this.
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My OH has been very angry and depressed ever since and says he will not have the scan or see the consultant again and that they can't tell him he cannot drive.
In the last 8 weeks I have refused to let him drive if I or anyone else is in the car, so if we go out together I drive withe worse backseat driver (my OH beside me). This in itself is very stressful for me when I am driving with the constant "watch that", "do this", etc. On top of that he tells me daily or several times a day how I did not support him at the appointment as I should have told the consultant he was an excellent driver.
I have tried to explain that there are far worse things that can happen but he just will not accept he should no longer drive. My son and I got rid of his car so that has helped a little but I cannot wrestle the keys off him when he insists he is going out in the car. It is bad enough having the accusations and constant angry outbursts several times a day and that of course is on top of all the other problems that his dementia brings on a daily basis.
Whilst my husband has not as yet had a formal diagnosis I know that he has had problems for more than 7 years. I read many posts on TP and have to check that I haven't written it because I can identify so closely with what has been written.
I just wondered how others have dealt with this.
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