I would very much appreciate some guidance on a problem which I doubt is unique to me. My mother attended a Memory Clinic in April 2015 and was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive impairment. My mum had not wanted to go and took the result as all was well - just ordinary wear and tear for an 84 year old. Mum had major heart surgery in the past and the tester believed the problem was vascular linked. The advice was keep the blood pressure under control and come back for future tests, which my mum refuses to do. My relationship with my mother almost broke down completely getting her to the Memory Clinic the first time.
As her main carer I cannot risk her trust in me being damaged. I have been advised maintaining her confidence is vital, the drugs available may do little to help and her heart/BP considerations would prevent some being used. Her memory is getting worse with the short term almost completely gone. I feel in a no win situation. Get her back to the MC and get I feel certain a vascular dementia diagnosis which would destroy her confidence, but offer little in return? Or allow her to continue in ignorance of her true condition. I live with my mum and I am committed to caring for her no matter what happens. I just do not know what to do whilst she refuses to acknowledge there is a real problem? Has anyone else experienced this? It seems without a dementia diagnosis I cannot access services which may help, but to force the issue would no doubt hurt my mum's confidence and my relationship with her. As her sole carer I cannot take that risk.
I think my mum is reluctant to accept her situation as during the war as a very young girl she had to help care for an elderly relative who I suspect had dementia. War time and needs must but it has left her with a deep fear of the condition. Any advice or guidance would be welcome.
As her main carer I cannot risk her trust in me being damaged. I have been advised maintaining her confidence is vital, the drugs available may do little to help and her heart/BP considerations would prevent some being used. Her memory is getting worse with the short term almost completely gone. I feel in a no win situation. Get her back to the MC and get I feel certain a vascular dementia diagnosis which would destroy her confidence, but offer little in return? Or allow her to continue in ignorance of her true condition. I live with my mum and I am committed to caring for her no matter what happens. I just do not know what to do whilst she refuses to acknowledge there is a real problem? Has anyone else experienced this? It seems without a dementia diagnosis I cannot access services which may help, but to force the issue would no doubt hurt my mum's confidence and my relationship with her. As her sole carer I cannot take that risk.
I think my mum is reluctant to accept her situation as during the war as a very young girl she had to help care for an elderly relative who I suspect had dementia. War time and needs must but it has left her with a deep fear of the condition. Any advice or guidance would be welcome.