Hi all
I think i've mentioned this before - its now becoming a real issue and we are at our wits end on how to deal
Mums beloved companion (dog) was put to sleep last Nov -he was 13 & suffering, so we all went (mum included) to vets- deed done, tears . awful days after ...
we then had six weeks up till xmas - daily & nightly calls from mum ''where's my dog' and then an extreme of being accused of killing her dog / how wicked we are / how could we do it .....& so on.
2 week respiite between xmas & NY - no idea why -she seemed to accept it - but a week ago -its all started again.
we have tried saturation therapy (on advice from the mental health nurse) -showing her his cremation certificate / his ashes in a lovely box and constant repeat of 'he had a bad heart & was put to sleep'
to the love lies of..
he's at the vets
he's resting at our house
mum will now call the vets at least once a day & call the police to report him missing - the vets are exremely good & tell mum the truth -she accepts it from them - 10 mins later, is on the phone to me / husband / friend / other family, asking where he is...
we now unplug our phone every night at 10.30 otherwise calls get ridiculous and mobiles constantly on silent.
We have thought long & hard about getting her another dog - prob is, she was struggling to look after the last one, forgetting his tablets / dinner and he was very matted -we used to have to intervene at least once / twice week with walks / vet trips / grooming and am just not prepared to do that again
(as - my mum HATES small dogs - either a big huge hound -or nothing at all!!!)
I'm sorry if this seems so silly - beleive me, we do have worse situations with her moods / agression / memory loss -but at the moment -this is affecting all of us, to such a degree, i don't want to visit my mum or even talk to her, as i know the conv within seconds turns to the dog!!!
thanks for reading!
sas
x
I think i've mentioned this before - its now becoming a real issue and we are at our wits end on how to deal
Mums beloved companion (dog) was put to sleep last Nov -he was 13 & suffering, so we all went (mum included) to vets- deed done, tears . awful days after ...
we then had six weeks up till xmas - daily & nightly calls from mum ''where's my dog' and then an extreme of being accused of killing her dog / how wicked we are / how could we do it .....& so on.
2 week respiite between xmas & NY - no idea why -she seemed to accept it - but a week ago -its all started again.
we have tried saturation therapy (on advice from the mental health nurse) -showing her his cremation certificate / his ashes in a lovely box and constant repeat of 'he had a bad heart & was put to sleep'
to the love lies of..
he's at the vets
he's resting at our house
mum will now call the vets at least once a day & call the police to report him missing - the vets are exremely good & tell mum the truth -she accepts it from them - 10 mins later, is on the phone to me / husband / friend / other family, asking where he is...
we now unplug our phone every night at 10.30 otherwise calls get ridiculous and mobiles constantly on silent.
We have thought long & hard about getting her another dog - prob is, she was struggling to look after the last one, forgetting his tablets / dinner and he was very matted -we used to have to intervene at least once / twice week with walks / vet trips / grooming and am just not prepared to do that again
(as - my mum HATES small dogs - either a big huge hound -or nothing at all!!!)
I'm sorry if this seems so silly - beleive me, we do have worse situations with her moods / agression / memory loss -but at the moment -this is affecting all of us, to such a degree, i don't want to visit my mum or even talk to her, as i know the conv within seconds turns to the dog!!!
thanks for reading!
sas
x