On Monday night after a day of Mum unusually being off colour all day, not wanting to eat or drink or get out of bed, which I put down to a cold virus I had previously, Mum fell off the toilet and managed to somehow topple into her head on the tiled floor. She was unconscious for a few minutes and violently sick and diarrhoea poured out of her. It was awful. She was really clammy and unwell and I phoned an ambulance and she was taken into hospital an hour away. For the last two days I have stayed with her and not gone home and am exhausted.
CT scans were clear but as of yesterday afternoon, Mum has become unrecognisable. They say she has an infection. I'm hoping it's just that and she will get better but I've had the worst afternoon and night of my life. She's changed beyond recognition and is extremely stressed, agitated and aggressive and has been absolutely awful with me. The ward she was in was horrendously noisy and manic and so I got her moved to a quieter one last night as I thought that was the problem. Last night I had to eventually ignore her in the hope she would burn herself out but she pulled off her identification bracelets and her iv line and was in such a state. I know she's somewhere different and she's scared but I never thought my Mum would display such behaviour! I was shell shocked.
I've always been so lucky over the past two years since she moved in with me. She's always been placid and happy, although can no longer do anything for herself so I do everything for her on my own but weve always been able to enjoy trips out, picnics, shows and lunches out and, although it's tough as I gave up my job to care for her full time and have really given up my whole life as it was before, I've always felt so blessed how easy Mum was in her dementia journey compared to many others.
Since her admission into hospital, she has become a monster and I'm so scared. I'm going to come home today for shower and some sleep as I will make myself ill and have a breakdown at this rate. I've always been so strong and such a fighter having gone through 3 Court of Protection hearings to fight to keep my Mum with me and now I'm so frightened things have massively changed in the last two days. I do hope I'm going to get my Mum back and it's not the start of a slippery slope. If she doesn't improve I can't see how she can come back home and us be as we were.
CT scans were clear but as of yesterday afternoon, Mum has become unrecognisable. They say she has an infection. I'm hoping it's just that and she will get better but I've had the worst afternoon and night of my life. She's changed beyond recognition and is extremely stressed, agitated and aggressive and has been absolutely awful with me. The ward she was in was horrendously noisy and manic and so I got her moved to a quieter one last night as I thought that was the problem. Last night I had to eventually ignore her in the hope she would burn herself out but she pulled off her identification bracelets and her iv line and was in such a state. I know she's somewhere different and she's scared but I never thought my Mum would display such behaviour! I was shell shocked.
I've always been so lucky over the past two years since she moved in with me. She's always been placid and happy, although can no longer do anything for herself so I do everything for her on my own but weve always been able to enjoy trips out, picnics, shows and lunches out and, although it's tough as I gave up my job to care for her full time and have really given up my whole life as it was before, I've always felt so blessed how easy Mum was in her dementia journey compared to many others.
Since her admission into hospital, she has become a monster and I'm so scared. I'm going to come home today for shower and some sleep as I will make myself ill and have a breakdown at this rate. I've always been so strong and such a fighter having gone through 3 Court of Protection hearings to fight to keep my Mum with me and now I'm so frightened things have massively changed in the last two days. I do hope I'm going to get my Mum back and it's not the start of a slippery slope. If she doesn't improve I can't see how she can come back home and us be as we were.
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