Good morning! I'm posting regarding my mum, who has now been in hospital for nine weeks - she suffered a massive infection following the routine removal of a kidney stone back in August. I think she astounded us and the staff alike by recovering from it - they were definitely preparing me, my sister and my father for the very worst. However, since she moved from the high dependency unit five weeks ago, her eating has gone from sporadic to almost non-existent. My father in particular is at his wits' end with worry about this, and has resorted to taking in his own (very good) homemade soups and other things you can put in a Thermos flask to try and persuade her to have a few mouthfuls. Normally, she loves chocolate, cakes and biscuits, so we tried initially to tempt her with these, but to no avail. The hospital provides her with Fortisip drinks and desserts, and the staff do their very best to get her to eat, but of course, cannot force feed her. My father has taken to visiting at around lunchtime every day so that he can help her with her meal, but yesterday, she told him she didn't want "any bloody lunch"! He finally managed to get her to eat some of the cauliflower cheese he'd taken in, but she wouldn't touch what the hospital had provided. She is also refusing to do any physiotherapy - getting out of bed, standing and walking a short distance - and again, the staff cannot force her to do this. We've tried all the usual forms of persuasion - "they won't let you go home if you don't eat/have your physio" "go on, have some of the soup, Father's really worried about you" "aren't you hungry?" and so on. She has lost a huge amount of weight - the skin is hanging off her. Quite early on in her stay at hospital, we were told that she would need to spend time at a nursing home before she could be considered for returning home, but in reality, my father was not coping in any case before she was ill, and my sister and I feel that once she is ensconced in a nursing home, she will not be able to return home. She asks to go home, of course, every day, and I think my father still harbours some hope that she will go home to him. Can anyone suggest how we could possibly persuade her to start eating again? We have wondered if, in her mind, she is staging a protest, and that she thinks that if she won't eat, they'll send her home. She is 78 and my father is 86. Thank you all so much. Catherine xxx